How to live a life that matters
| posted 8/20/2013
I first truly understood integrity the day I was laid off due to budgetary reasons. That might seem like a strange time to recognize something so universally praised as integrity. Don't get me wrong: It was painful. Losing my job in a bad economy was hardly a pleasing prospect.
And yet, the person who told me I was laid me off did so with integrity. He said he had wrestled, painfully, with the decision—and I knew he was being honest. He said he had prayed about it—and it was clear he had. He said he had wept over the decision—and the tears at the corners of his eyes showed he meant it.
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A week after getting laid off, I stood in line at church, waiting to take Communion from the same man. In addition to being my boss, he was also a priest at a local congregation where I happened to be visiting. As I approached my former boss, the man who'd laid me off, he said "This is Christ's body, broken for you. This is Christ's blood, shed for you."
I believed him, then, too.
Any time there is a human relationship, there is an opportunity for integrity or a lack thereof. In its most basic sense, integrity means to live out your life in private in the same way you live (or talk about) your life in public. And that's exactly how my former boss lives his life.
Christians are called to the highest of ideals. We believe things like "death to self" and "the last shall be first," but we grapple and struggle almost constantly with living lives of integrity. Unfortunately, there are countless examples of Christian leaders who suffered great falls where it was made clear that their private lives look vastly different from the carefully curated lives they lived in front of their audiences.
But God calls us to another way. So what does integrity really look like?
The Bible and Integrity
The Bible is somewhat silent on the actual term integrity. There are a handful of proverbs that mention integrity in certain translations (Prov. 10:9; 11:3), but most of them are of the "it's good to have integrity because those without it are wicked" persuasion.
Scripture is filled, however, with passages urging integrity in believers—it just talks about integrity without using that term. Think of the most famous New Testament commands for Christian living: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit" (Galatians 5:22-25). Such a list is a command to live a life of the highest integrity, a life that brings goodness and blessings to all people.
In short, the Christian command to integrity is a command to both talk and walk in the way of Jesus. It's a life marked by love, compassion, mercy, justice, and honoring God's call above everything else. It's the life spoken of in 1 Peter: "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil" (3:10-12). That definition of integrity calls us to walk in the path of Christ, and to steer clear of hypocrisy.