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"I'm not marrying your family; I'm marrying you," some couples say when they first encounter the specter of in-laws. It's a statement that can get them into trouble. While it's true that a wife's first priority is to her husband (before either set of parents), it's also true that she is indeed marrying her in-laws. The family that nurtured her husband becomes her own. Likewise, her family is now his. Husband and wife each have a responsibility to honor both sets of parents and (if necessary) to care for them in old age. In many families, this is a happy bonus for all involved.

But when it comes to holidays, visits with grandchildren, and financial arrangements, practicality becomes a factor. Naturally, as they make these decisions all couples must weigh the needs of their parents, geographical logistics, and the well-being of their own family. But unity is more likely if each considers both sets of parents his or her own.

It may seem strange to draw an example for "becoming one" in marriage from two women who happened to be in-laws. Most brides will reserve words of such strong commitment for their husband alone. But Ruth is a reminder that you marry your in-laws as well. (See also Genesis 2:18-25; 1 Corinthians 12:12-31.)

Good Words to Remember:
Ruth said, "Wherever you go, I will go; and wherever you lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God, my God." Ruth 1:16

Today's Challenge:
How do you treat your in-laws?

Bible Studies on Marriage