Civil Reactions: Rudeness Has a First Name
Instant informality actually sabotages true friendship
Stephen Carter | posted 10/22/2001 12:00AM

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If I happen to meet you one day, I promise to address you with an appropriate form of respect: "Mr.," "Mrs.," "Miss." If I stumble, please tell me. I will not be insulted. In fact, your correction of my mistake will honor me, for it will help us both to remember, even in our topsy-turvy times, that respect is a right due to each of us by virtue of our humanity, but friendship and intimacy are privileges that must be earned.
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