Lars and the Real Girl is a sweet and endearing film about a shy, reclusive man who strikes up a chaste relationship with a sex doll that he orders over the Internet—and the film is, indeed, so sweet and endearing that it's kind of a pity that the man's imaginary girlfriend is a sex doll and not, say, a department-store mannequin or a crash-test dummy. If it were not for the occasional and very discreet references to the doll's anatomical correctness—a subject that is raised and addressed by a few of the other characters but never by the man himself—this could have been the sort of film you'd consider taking your mother to.

But since the man is dating a sex doll, we might as well note that the film's risqué premise actually serves to underscore the man's decency and goodness. Lars Lindstrom (Ryan Gosling) has brought the doll into his life, and named it "Bianca," because for some reason he cannot let himself get too close to anyone, not even his brother Gus (Paul Schneider) and his sister-in-law Karin (Emily Mortimer). And he certainly can't handle the thought of dating an actual woman, even though he has an attractive, perky co-worker named Margo (Kelli Garner) who sings in the choir at his church and is obviously interested in him.

Ryan Gosling as Lars

Ryan Gosling as Lars

But his intentions with Bianca are pure. Bianca is "very religious," says Lars, and she insists on living under a separate roof—so Lars persuades the befuddled Gus and Karin to give Bianca a room to sleep in. Lars respects Bianca's boundaries so much that he even persuades Karin to bathe her and dress her when Lars isn't there to look. Is Lars putting on an act to manipulate his friends and family? It doesn't seem that way, since he treats Bianca as though she were a real person even when there is no one else around.

Not surprisingly, Gus thinks his brother Lars is nuts. But Karin plays along with what seems to be a delusion on Lars's part—and when the local doctor, Dagmar (Patricia Clarkson), explains that Lars is working out some sort of deep psychological problem, it isn't long before pretty much the entire town is playing along and treating Bianca as though she were a real person. And that includes the local minister, Reverend Bock (R.D. Reid), who welcomes Bianca into the fold because that, he says, is what Jesus would do.

Gus (Paul Schneider) and Karin (Emily Mortimer) are shocked by Lars' dinner guest

Gus (Paul Schneider) and Karin (Emily Mortimer) are shocked by Lars' dinner guest

Surprisingly, given his choice of companion, the underlying psychological problem faced by Lars does not appear to be sexual. When Dagmar asks Gus and Karin if the family has seen any changes lately, the only thing they can think of is the fact that Karin is pregnant. And Lars does, indeed, seem to be very concerned for Karin and her baby. In the film's very first scene, Lars insists that Karin wear a blanket to stay warm, and we later learn that this blanket was knitted for Lars by his mother before she died giving birth to him.

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Lars takes his baby blanket everywhere, but he is not the only character who hasn't fully grown up yet. His co-worker Kurt (Maxwell McCabe-Lokos)—the one who drew his attention to the "Real Dolls" website in the first place—keeps action figures in his cubicle, and when Margo teases him by hiding them, Kurt threatens to do something to her teddy bear in return. And so it comes as little surprise when Reverend Bock delivers a sermon on the passage in 1 Corinthians about becoming a man and putting childish things away.

Patricia Clarkson as Dr. Dagmar

Patricia Clarkson as Dr. Dagmar

Ironically, it is because the townsfolk indulge Lars in his fantasy and treat Bianca like a real person that Lars begins to come out of his shell. He takes her to a party, even though he would clearly rather stay home, because that is what Bianca would want. And when a jealous Lars complains that Bianca spends too much time with the other women in town, one of them gives him an earful and tells him he can't control a lady that way. He needs to respect Bianca as "other," and this, in turn, allows him to treat others as "other," too.

Like Mr. Woodcock, director Craig Gillespie's only previous feature film, Lars and the Real Girl flirts with risqué material but is really interested in what you might call small-town values. And just as Mr. Woodcock included a scene in which the author of a self-help book admits that he took his best idea from the Bible, Lars and the Real Girl makes church an essential part of Lars's life—though there is a slight element of nostalgic caricature to this part of the film, just as there is to the film's depiction of the town as a whole.

Kelli Garner as Margo

Kelli Garner as Margo

For example, Reverend Bock still uses the King James Bible ("I spake as a child," etc.); and when Gus and Karin ask the board whether Lars can bring Bianca to church, one grumpy member objects not because Bianca is a pornographic object, albeit one that is dressed in modest clothing, but because she is a "golden calf"! This prompts an amusing reply from one of the other board members—Lars isn't worshipping the graven image, only dating her—whose efforts to bend the letter of the law to the spirit of the law ring a little truer.

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Not that the movie is trying to be realistic, of course. In its own strange, eccentric way, it is more of a parable, and the less time you spend dwelling on its implausibilities, the better. But it works, largely because the actors all find just the right, believable tone. Schneider is amusing as a man who cares for his brother but can never finish his sentences; Mortimer brings the same heartfelt sincerity to her role that she brought to the similarly contrived but deeply affecting Dear Frankie; Clarkson strikes a note of compassionate intelligence; and Gosling hints strongly at the complexity churning within an outwardly simple man.

In its own way, the film encourages us to look beyond the surface when we are dealing with people—even when those people are made of silicone—and if you can look past the movie's naughty-sounding premise, Lars and the Real Girl just might be one of the more heart-warming and redemptive experiences you'll have at the theatre this year.

Talk About It

Discussion starters
  1. How does the imagination help us deal with reality? How does it distract us from reality? How can we know the difference? What if, as in Lars's case, we don't seem to be able to distinguish between what is real and what is imaginary? Can it still help us?
  2. What "childish things" do you still cling to? How have you been able to put the "childish things" in your life away? How have others helped you to do this?
  3. What does this film say about the importance of community? About relating to people as something "other" than us? What does it say about the importance of family?
  4. Lars always speaks for Bianca. How is this similar to, or different from, people claiming to speak for God? How do we know when we are not simply projecting things onto God? What role do the Bible, the experiences of other Christians, and so forth have? (Note how the pastor asks, "What would Jesus do?" What resources can we use to answer this question?)

The Family Corner

For parents to consider

Lars and the Real Girl is rated PG-13 for some sex-related content, which consists mostly of a few scenes in which people discretely discuss an anatomically correct doll. The doll remains clothed throughout the film, except for a scene where Gus and Karin give it a bath, and even then, we see nothing below the shoulders. Church is a central part of Lars's life, though other characters take the names of God and Christ in vain a few times.

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Lars and the Real Girl
Our Rating
3½ Stars - Good
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Mpaa Rating
PG-13 (for some sex-related content)
Genre
Directed By
Craig Gillespie
Run Time
1 hour 46 minutes
Cast
Ryan Gosling, Emily Mortimer, Paul Schneider
Theatre Release
November 02, 2007 by Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer
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