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February 11, 2012

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Wrestling with Angels
Strength in Meekness
What to do with the anger that saps strength.




My grandmother was great, but she had that special mother-in-law gift of raising my mother's blood pressure. A well-timed comment about cooking or child-rearing would leave my mom stammering and defensive.

As a teenager, I would walk by and whisper, "Water off a duck's back, Mom." She came to understand my code—Let it go; Nana doesn't mean anything by it, and we know you're a good wife and mother—and my whispers usually helped. But now I wish I had known to say, "Roll it onto God, Mom."

Psalm 37:5 tells us to "commit your way to the Lord." Translated, this verse says something like, "roll onto Jehovah thy way." At certain family dinners, that means passing the gravy and "rolling" the need to defend ourselves—as well as our more serious needs and concerns—onto God.

Jesus was quoting from Psalm 37 when he said the meek will inherit the earth, and it turns out that the whole psalm is a primer on meekness. I have always been a little over-meek (reticent, shy, too deferential). So when I read the Bible and find the meek congratulated, I'm delighted.

But there's a catch. It turns out that only two people in Scripture are described as "meek": Moses and Jesus. So meekness likely has little to do with timidity.

If meekness isn't weakness, what is it? The word has an association with domesticated animals, specifically beasts of burden. At first blush, this etymology doesn't thrill me; I don't particularly aspire to be ox-like. But when I think about it, an ox at the plow is not weak but extraordinarily strong. The key, though, is that his power is harnessed and directed. Perhaps meekness is strength that is submitted to an appropriate authority.

Shortly after I began writing this column, I found myself in rare conflict with a friend. At first I thought my anger was giving me strength, bolstering my courage so I could deal with the issues. But the anger soon betrayed me, sapping my energy and compromising my ability to act according to wisdom and divine direction. It's only as I have turned my hurt—and the overwhelming urge to prove that I'm right—over to God that I've begun to be able to respond (and sometimes resist responding) from a place of holy, rather than human, strength.

Psalm 37 is all about strength in meekness. It deals with trusting God to be God, and with not trying to do his job. The meek, for example, don't repay evil for evil; they rely on God for justice (vv. 1-3). Several verses mention that the meek don't fret. And the meek let God provide their hearts' desires rather than trying to manipulate people and circumstances to get what they want (v. 4).

How much energy do I expend trying to secure provisions, control outcomes, and manage people's perceptions of me? Psalm 37 tells us that the meek give that labor up. They trust God's claims that he will provide, protect, and defend, and in so doing free up resources for putting their hands to God's plow. It's a good plan.

But here's the thing: I would be fine with rolling my burdens onto God if I were guaranteed resolution. There's a joke that describes the effects of playing a country song backwards: Your spouse returns, your dog is resurrected, and your truck starts working again. I wish that surrender to God worked the same way.

But faith isn't like that. The biblical witness is that circumstances often get more challenging, not less, when one's way is committed to the Lord. So why roll it onto God if "it" (the need, circumstance, quarrelsome friend, or critical in-law) isn't necessarily going to get fixed?





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Displaying 1–5 of 12 comments

Dieter, Meknes

February 25, 2010  5:54pm

Excellent article. I understand meekness as not insisting on our rights. Our mixed up society today is filled with all kinds of laws, granting rights to individuals, which only take away the rights of another. A classic example (I I read it in CT) using an anti-discrimination law, forbidden a travel agent to operate women-only tours). It's true - it depends what "it" is, which we try to let go and roll onto God. Christians need to pray for wisdom, when to stand up and speak out, and when to keep silent and let God be God. A phrase in Psalm 91, 8 comes to mind: "... only with your eyes shall you look and see the reward of the wicked". It (es) is not over, until IT is over. Hi from Australia Dieter

JoannK

February 22, 2010  5:24pm

Thank you for this wonderful article; I needed it so much as I have been grappling with self righteousness and anger. I just can't have those feelings & love, too.

Claire

February 18, 2010  1:22pm

It is so easy to tell others what they need to do to change, but only after you've cast the mote out of your own eye, then you can tell them in love what you have had to do. So many people don't recognize their own faults. So often people have come to me complaining about what someone did to them and it's exactly what they had done to me, and I felt just as offended. We need to keep watch on our own actions and then you don't have time to check others. God says vengeance is mine, and I have seen things come back to people. Last evening our leader told the group of something I had expressed, but was trying to explain a principle. He'd asked me first, but it wasn't what I had said at all. But why embarrass anyone by the need to correct. God knew what I said. and he actually made my point when he finished..

L

February 17, 2010  7:34am

I know that only God can provide, restore and love me with everything I need; that even if all my relationships with other people were without misunderstanding or conflict, I would still have that need for perfect love that only God can fill. I know that we are to give everything to Him and trust Him to provide all that we need. But what are to be and do for each other? Am I allowed to tell a friend at church that I am hurting or angry over something? Or is that showing a lack of faith and trust. Is it my job when someone confides in me to just remind them to "roll it onto God" without engaging enough in the process to grieve with them, hope with them, pray with them and walk through the conflict and restoration process with them? Does honest communication and learning to understand one another have no place in the church? The times I have worked through relationship difficulties have been times I have seen God's comfort and grace and truth working in our lives.

T

February 16, 2010  7:52am

Lynn, not having a hot-head and anger and vengeful feelings and leaving the judgment to God does not exclude telling people that they need to change. In fact leaving the judgment to God makes it easier to be more direct in your communications and calmer. It is when you feel you have to expend your own strength that problems in your own self begins. The aim of the article as I read it is to make our work easier as the wronged party not to let the other person off the hook.

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