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Wrestling with Angels

Strength in Meekness

What to do with the anger that saps strength.

My grandmother was great, but she had that special mother-in-law gift of raising my mother's blood pressure. A well-timed comment about cooking or child-rearing would leave my mom stammering and defensive.

As a teenager, I would walk by and whisper, "Water off a duck's back, Mom." She came to understand my code—Let it go; Nana doesn't mean anything by it, and we know you're a good wife and mother—and my whispers usually helped. But now I wish I had known to say, "Roll it onto God, Mom."

Psalm 37:5 tells us to "commit your way to the Lord." Translated, this verse says something like, "roll onto Jehovah thy way." At certain family dinners, that means passing the gravy and "rolling" the need to defend ourselves—as well as our more serious needs and concerns—onto God.

Jesus was quoting from Psalm 37 when he said the meek will inherit the earth, and it turns out that the whole psalm is a primer on meekness. I have always been a little over-meek (reticent, shy, too deferential). So when I read the Bible and find the meek congratulated, I'm delighted.

But there's a catch. It turns out that only two people in Scripture are described as "meek": Moses and Jesus. So meekness likely has little to do with timidity.

If meekness isn't weakness, what is it? The word has an association with domesticated animals, specifically beasts of burden. At first blush, this etymology doesn't thrill me; I don't particularly aspire to be ox-like. But when I think about it, an ox at the plow is not weak but extraordinarily strong. The key, though, is that his power is harnessed and directed. Perhaps meekness is strength that is submitted to an appropriate authority.

Shortly after I began writing this column, I found myself in rare conflict with a friend. At first I thought my anger was giving me strength, bolstering my courage so I could deal with the issues. But the anger soon betrayed me, sapping my energy and compromising my ability to act according to wisdom and divine direction. It's only as I have turned my hurt—and the overwhelming urge to prove that I'm right—over to God that I've begun to be able to respond (and sometimes resist responding) from a place of holy, rather than human, strength.

Psalm 37 is all about strength in meekness. It deals with trusting God to be God, and with not trying to do his job. The meek, for example, don't repay evil for evil; they rely on God for justice (vv. 1-3). Several verses mention that the meek don't fret. And the meek let God provide their hearts' desires rather than trying to manipulate people and circumstances to get what they want (v. 4).

How much energy do I expend trying to secure provisions, control outcomes, and manage people's perceptions of me? Psalm 37 tells us that the meek give that labor up. They trust God's claims that he will provide, protect, and defend, and in so doing free up resources for putting their hands to God's plow. It's a good plan.

But here's the thing: I would be fine with rolling my burdens onto God if I were guaranteed resolution. There's a joke that describes the effects of playing a country song backwards: Your spouse returns, your dog is resurrected, and your truck starts working again. I wish that surrender to God worked the same way.

But faith isn't like that. The biblical witness is that circumstances often get more challenging, not less, when one's way is committed to the Lord. So why roll it onto God if "it" (the need, circumstance, quarrelsome friend, or critical in-law) isn't necessarily going to get fixed?

Wrestling with Angels

Carolyn Arends

Carolyn Arends

Singer/songwriter and author Carolyn Arends has written and released 9 albums and penned 2 books, including Wrestling With Angels (Harvest House/Conversantlife.com). She is a regular reviewer for Christianity Today Movies and a list of her blogs can be found at CarolynArends.com. Her bimonthly "Wrestling With Angels" column has appeared in Christianity Today since 2008.


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February 2010, Vol. 54, No. 2
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Kelly Miller

April 13, 2013  10:07pm

Meekness I stepped into the word And looked every which way around. I discovered the Lord. He was everywhere to be found! One who is selfless in service And squares his shoulders for the task. Who but follows his known purpose And, through every trial, he does pass. As a willing participant, He enjoys his life and learning. When called for, he is indignant, To show God's love, he is yearning. He is able to take criticism And knows when to be silent. He is a model citizen Because he is self-reliant. His goal is but to please And he endures ingratitude. His soul is filled with peace From a positive attitude. He is observant most of all And finds nature is his tutor. As all things point to God He is hopeful for the future. Pondering Meekness- A Dimension of True Discipleship By Neal A Maxwell BYU Address 1982

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Dieter, Meknes

February 25, 2010  5:54pm

Excellent article. I understand meekness as not insisting on our rights. Our mixed up society today is filled with all kinds of laws, granting rights to individuals, which only take away the rights of another. A classic example (I I read it in CT) using an anti-discrimination law, forbidden a travel agent to operate women-only tours). It's true - it depends what "it" is, which we try to let go and roll onto God. Christians need to pray for wisdom, when to stand up and speak out, and when to keep silent and let God be God. A phrase in Psalm 91, 8 comes to mind: "... only with your eyes shall you look and see the reward of the wicked". It (es) is not over, until IT is over. Hi from Australia Dieter

JoannK

February 22, 2010  5:24pm

Thank you for this wonderful article; I needed it so much as I have been grappling with self righteousness and anger. I just can't have those feelings & love, too.

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