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Throwing Inkwells

Faith Unbound

Why spirituality is sexy but religion is not.

Most of my Facebook friends are clear about their religious views. They identify as Lutheran, Catholic, or atheist. I also have friends who view their religion as a canvas of self-expression. A friend of mine says he is a "Latter-day Bacchanalian/Dionysian, Pastafarian, Cthulhu Cultist." My cousin tells her online friends, "I'm spiritual, not religious … and I enjoy checking out European cathedrals."

She's not alone. The number of people who self-identify using the long-popular phrase "spiritual but not religious" is still growing. In 1998, 9 percent of American adults told the General Social Survey they were spiritual but not religious. By 2008, it had risen to 14 percent. Among those ages 18 to 39, the increase was even more dramatic, and 18 percent now say they are spiritual but not religious.

The growth is not because people are less likely to identify as religious, but because nonreligious people are more likely to say they are spiritual, says Duke sociologist Mark Chaves.

Part of the phrase's popularity can be attributed to its sex appeal. No, really. A social psychologist at Britain's Southampton University looked at 57 studies covering 15,000 experiment subjects, and reported in Personality and Social Psychology Review that North Americans find "intrinsically religious" people desirable—but that the desirability decreases if people portray themselves as extrinsically religious.

Elaborate dating scheme or not, if you wonder what the phrase means, you'll probably get a different answer from each person you ask. That may be the point.

"Spiritual has, in some sense, come to mean 'my own personal religion with my own individual creed,' " Timothy Paul Jones, a Baptist seminary professor, told the Louisville Courier-Journal.

The word religion comes from the Latin religare (re: "back," and ligare: "to bind"), so the term is associated with being bound. In that sense, defining oneself as "spiritual, not religious" couldn't be more apt, reflecting a desire to not be bound by any rules, community, or belief. Being spiritual but not religious is the perfect fit for people who don't like the demands of religion but aren't quite ready to say they have no soul.

Catholic philosopher Peter Kreeft has noted that our culture's fear "is not the fear of death, as it was for the ancient cultures of Greece and Rome, nor is it the fear of hell," as found in the Christian, Jewish, and Islamic societies of the medieval period. No, the fear of the age "is the fear of meaninglessness itself."

Yet those who oppose organized religion may be missing out on some of the best tools for staving off meaninglessness.

It's not that spiritual people are less likely to say they're religious. Instead, nonreligious people are more likely to say they are spiritual.

The Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life found that only 5 percent of the religiously unaffiliated attend church weekly or participate weekly in group prayer, and that only 9 percent read Scripture weekly outside of religious services. Yet what are worship, prayer, and study but "spiritual" disciplines that strengthen faith in a mature Christian?

And that's the problem. How different are we from the group that admits it's not religious? We too bristle against the binding demands of our faith. We find it easy to justify not tithing or praying. We disrespect authority, fail to take care of our neighbors in need, and covet the materialism of the world. We barely qualify as spiritual or religious.

In the Gospel of John, Jesus calls the Holy Spirit the "Spirit of truth." True spirituality is not an emotion, experience, or set of behaviors, but rests on the truth found in the Scriptures. That Word of God, that truth, that Spirit is what we are bound to as Christians.

Throwing Inkwells

Mollie Ziegler Hemingway

Mollie Ziegler Hemingway

Mollie Ziegler Hemingway is a contributor to GetReligion.org, an editor at Ricochet.com, and a frequent writer for Christianity Today and a number of other outlets. A committed Lutheran, her column ran from 2009 to 2011.


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September 2010, Vol. 54, No. 9
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Veronika Bowen

September 30, 2010  11:49am

Wonderful article. C.W.'s comments struck me as interesting. Perhaps those over 50 fear death because many fall under the category of "boomers" a group that has lived a rather empty, materialistic-driven, often void of faith life since the sexual revolution. They fear death because of their empty, excessive, self-indulgent lives. I am in my 30s and don't fear death, as my life is filled with faith and not stuff.

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N C

September 30, 2010  11:47am

Let's be honest. The word "religious" has a bad connotation. It is constantly paired with words like "intolerance", "war", etc. It is no wonder some people avoid that label. When some of us say that we are spiritual, it does not mean that we do not feel "bound" to anyone. I am spirutally bound to God and to my brothers and sisters in Christ sitting in the pews around me. I feel an obligation and a responsibility to God and to them. A spiritual network is a structure. It may not look as neat and rigid as what some may be used to, but it should not be easily dismissed from the family of God.

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dale potter

September 27, 2010  1:04pm

As I read this I just think you are missing the point. Jesus did not set up a religion system he set up a relationships based community; a way to become adopted into a family rather than some stagnant system of religious rules and expatiations designed to control the people which is what dominated life in the time that Jesus walked this earth as a man. The religious (denominational and control based) system we call “Christianity” in many circles today would seem to be much closer top what Jesus taught against rather than the relationship system that he taught us to follow. Spirituality whether it is a still a search for truth (pre discovery of the reality of Jesus Christ) or being in a true relationship with Jesus Christ is what Jesus taught. He came to free us from the bondage religion brings.

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