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Sex Sect The Family Cleans House

The former Children of God movement is leaving its sex cult history behind as it shifts from radical legalism to more biblical behavior.

Sex Sect The Family Cleans House

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April 10, 2012
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The Family International (TFI), a controversial Christian movement known for once using sexual favors to win converts, has launched significant reforms that have stunned cult watchers and followers alike.

Known originally as the Children of God, the group began in 1968 as part of the Jesus People movement but became infamous for its sexual libertarianism, prophetic obsession, and elitism.

Founder David Berg adopted evangelical views on many doctrines, but over time his teachings supplanted the Bible. Cult watchers criticized Berg's teaching that female disciples should use sexual favors—termed "flirty fishing"—to convert men to Jesus. More notoriously, the group once had an open attitude about sexual contact between adults and minors.

Both practices ceased by 1987, but even after Berg's death in 1994, TFI leaders Peter (nee Steve Kelly) and Maria (nee Karen Zerby, Berg's widow) taught that consensual sex between non-married adults was permitted in Family homes and encouraged members to think of Jesus as a love partner.

The last time TFI made headlines was in January 2005 when Maria's son Ricky Rodriguez, the once-future leader who left in 2001, killed longtime member Angela Smith and then shot himself.

But a new vision for TFI, which peaked at 15,000 members and numbers 4,000 today, may lead to less shocking headlines.

In a 2010 document called "Change Journey Manifesto," Peter (who married Maria after Berg died) announced that God said TFI needed to change directions in order to fulfill its mission and allow members to blossom as individuals. "We are standing at the edge of the cliff, poised to dive into the future, into the new," he wrote.

Spokesperson Claire Borowick told CT that what TFI today calls "the reboot" involves dismantling the group's worldwide organizational structure and the breakup of much of its communal living. Doctrinal changes involve a stronger endorsement of biblical authority, the minimizing of Peter and Maria as sources of revelation, and a more conservative expression of sexuality. "Any previous writings that contain sexually explicit applications have been removed from circulation," said Borowick.

The reboot also makes frequent mention of focusing on principles rather than rules. Peter apologizes that regulations "made being in the Family feel a lot less like being on a spirit-led adventure … and rather like being bound to a works-based religion."

Gary Shepherd, a leading scholar on TFI, expressed surprise. "I don't know of any comparable group that has changed so quickly or so fundamentally altered such a large number of its beliefs and practices."

He and twin brother Gordon, authors of Talking with the Children of God, have studied the movement for almost two decades. "We were both very surprised at the range and depth of the changes and had only some preliminary hints of this massive transformation," said Shepherd. He suspects the voices of second-generation members helped shape Peter and Maria's reboot.

James Chancellor, author of Life in the Family and a professor at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, was also caught "off guard," particularly over the group's move away from communal living. "[Peter and Maria] may have come to some personal spiritual conclusions that there were serious errors that were endemic to the movement as it was," he said.

The reboot has been greeted with scorn on anti-Family websites. Some writers suggest that Peter and Maria are retiring with the group's money in the face of dwindling membership. Others say many Family members feel betrayed by the changes, speculating that "with their newfound freedom, it's only a matter of time before [TFI is] only a memory."


From Issue:
April 2012, Vol. 56, No. 4, Pg 14, "The Family Cleans House"
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Sam Ajemian

April 20, 2012  11:23am

I know a number of ex-members of the Family have worked as strippers, but was surprised to read here that many of them walk the streets as prostitutes. If you could share more about this with me my e-mail is samajemian@sbcglobal.net Thank you.

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Sam Ajemian

April 20, 2012  11:17am

The April 2012 article in Christianity Today entitled “The Family Cleans House” states the group allowed sex between non-marrieds, implying that married members were not having sex with other members. The truth is married members were free to have sex with single members. Couple other errors in the article are that both flirty fishing and sex of adults with minors stopped in 1987. The truth is that they both continued, but in a much smaller scale. The author defines flirty fishing as using sex to make converts. I wonder if he knows that the group was also involved in prostitution, even prostitution of minors. More seriously, the main message of this short article is that as a result of significant changes introduced in a number of cult publications in 2010, collectively referred to as Reboot, the group “is leaving its sex cult history behind.” Unfortunately anybody who has read the entire Reboot of about 200 pages knows that even at this time where the group is throwing out the window so many other things, they made a clear decision not to abandon their much cherished and most fundamental doctrine, the so-called Law of Love. According to this doctrine you can have sex with anybody as long as you are motivated by love and not lust. It supersedes both the Old and New Testaments. I don’t know if sex of adults with minors has stopped completely, but after many years of officially not allowing it, they announced in the Reboot that anybody in the group who wants to can now have sex with outsiders. So in this area at least, the group is getting worse and not better. Here are some quotations from the Reboot on the subject. Reboot 8. Lifestyle. “If a member of the Family chooses to engage in sex outside of marriage (with a member or nonmember), it should be within the guidelines of the Law of Love.” Reboot 14. Applying the Law of Love. “There are no longer restrictions on sexual relations with nonmembers.” Reboot 14. Applying the Law of Love. “As you know, the previous restrictions have been lifted regarding whom members of the FTI can have sexual relationship with. Peter and I are happy about this change. We believe that it will lead to wonderful friendships, relationships, and marriages.” On top of all this the horrible “Loving Jesus” doctrine continues to be practiced according to which even boys as young as fourteen are instructed to imagine they are female and to visualize that Jesus Christ is penetrating their vaginas. They are encouraged to masturbate and ejaculate to Him. In conclusion, there is absolutely no basis in suggesting as this Christianity Today article also does that this cult is adopting a “more conservative sexuality.” I think that another article should follow to try to counterbalance some of this very false information. Written by Sam Ajemian samajemian@sbcglobal.net

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Tim Childs

April 14, 2012  12:08pm

To me, this just sounds like an odd cult with odd ideas. Anything which deviates from the Bible and sound living is to be left somewhere else. In my humble opinion it should just disband and people should go back to the Bible; full stop.

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