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Why Churches Shouldn't Push Contraceptives to Their Singles

Reducing abortion is a noble and urgent goal. This is the wrong way to do it.

Why Churches Shouldn't Push Contraceptives to Their Singles

Two weeks ago, younger evangelical leaders gathered in Washington D.C. to reflect about the shape Christianity should take in the world. Q, the conference hosted by Gabe Lyons, is one of the more interesting spots in the evangelical landscape. Self-conscious in its cultural (which is to say, not political) orientation, conference attendees are an interesting cross-section of the evangelical world. Some might be emergent, others might be Reformed, but no one talks much about all that. It's concern about social issues, rather than distinctive theological ones, that attendees seem to gather around.

In a breathtaking moment of unity, however, conference attendees affirmed that churches should advocate for contraceptives for the single people in their midst. After a panel discussion on the best ways to reduce abortions in the church (tacit answer: contraception), an instant poll put the question to attendees: "Do you believe churches should advocate contraception for their single twentysomethings?" The question is ambiguously worded (Advocate how? From the pulpit? Which twentysomethings? All of them?). But even so, 70 percent of respondents understood enough to say "yes."

To suggest that abortion within our churches is a problem is to put it too mildly: it is a scandal, a travesty, a matter for repentance and mourning. And the same goes for the frequency of pre-marital sex among evangelical singles. They are both, as panel participant Jenell Williams Paris aptly pointed out in her opening remarks, symptoms of a stunted theological understanding of human sexuality. (Which raises the question, of course, of why the panel was devoted to addressing these symptoms rather than eliminating the disease).

The problem exists on (at least) two levels. For one, it is easy for evangelicals to proclaim God's intentions for sexuality without remembering that our tone should not shift away from offering the "good news." Regardless of how loudly we shout from the rooftops that God made sex and it is good (a refrain that is sung more often than any other), until we are willing to live inside the goodness and examine it from within, our proclamation of its goodness will invariably ring hollow. It is not enough to name human sexuality as a good before moving on to our list of rules. We must allow ourselves to linger there, to reflect upon its unique texture and explore its inner recesses. If we will do that, our proclamation will ring with the sort of poetry that will convince people that we can genuinely say with God that he has made it very good indeed.

Yet even if our moral exhortation weren't tinged with fear and legalism, we would also need to overcome the failure of our communal life and our subsequent inability to welcome those into our midst who fail to live up to our ideals. The refrain among the panelists is a trustworthy statement deserving of full acceptance: those who do get pregnant before wedlock don't exactly feel at home in our churches. The fear, shame, and isolation that unexpectant mothers feel suggests that our churches rarely exude the warmth and grace of those who live under the mercy of Christ. Their report is reason for repentance, and for serious self-examination.

There may be no easy answers to these problems. And the most convenient—advocating for contraception for sexually active single people in our churches—may temporarily reduce abortions. Yet whatever good consequences it might have do not mitigate the fact that such advocacy will inevitably further engrain into our communities the broken understanding of sex and community that is at the heart of our predicament.


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Bob Bobo

May 01, 2012  12:42pm

Allthough the author is right on many points, and though I hate to disagree, I do. why? I pastored youth for ten years. I saw good christin girls become pregnant with good christian boys. One of the things I noticed pastoring two churches youth groups, is that we teached all the right things about sexual purity, and most of the kids intended to live that way. I believe that if we had taught all we did, and also taught "but if you're going to sin, then at least have the courtesy to take responsibility for the possible pregnancy? After all, its the parents who pay and take care of teens when they get pregnant. I'm not sure you can't give both messages. After all "true love waits" is'nt the norm is it.

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David Mueller

April 28, 2012  12:51pm

The decision to gather around and to define the form that evangelicalism should take based on social issues and not theological ones is, itself, a profoundly theological decision and position. Evangelicalism is selling out to the religion of the Law.

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Kim Schroeder

April 27, 2012  5:07pm

continues ... People in churches are asking if Evangelicalism is really Christian or if it is a religo-political social construct based on Christian ideals that is more concerned with being the best authority on God than spirituality. I think, with respect, that the contraception issue is being driven by what I’ve described. I do not consider it a bad thing at all that Christian are responding, but suspect Evangelicals do.

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Kim Schroeder

April 27, 2012  5:06pm

continued .. . It really did seem that was the right thing to do especially when you consider the influx of new believers is far out striping the loss. For all concerned me included this proved we were right to just say “God calls that sin” and be done with it. I suggest the real motivation is economics. The trend has reversed and churches are losing market share. Is this not the real reason such compromises are on the table? I am one of those who left and self-exiled herself (himself at that point) around 1990 when I dropped out of divinity school. In my mind there were no alternatives, I just could not stop considering myself female and this equals I now had to stop being a Christian. Alternatives that are Christian in practice are presenting themselves. They many or may not be Christian, but they are welcoming without question and offer support where they are at the moment.

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Kim Schroeder

April 27, 2012  5:05pm

I wish to offer an alternative motivation for the contraception compromises being contemplated today by Evangelicalism. None of the issues spoken of are new. I suspect sexual immorality has not become worse in form by sexual variance or epidemic by magnitude. What has changed is obedience to what is being heard without reason or alternative. People are questioning the practical aspects of doctrine. They have been told to hold fast to the ideal and willfully accept the very real consequences when they fall short. Doctrines, meaning Gods truth, should be all that is necessary for a Christian to live by. Is there anything more practical that knowing the mind of God and how He wants us to live? It is a simple issue if you disobey God you may find joy for a season, but it will not last. This works when you can absorb an acceptable degree of loss. Turning the sinner in your midst over to Satan until they learn the error of their ways really was the solution of choice for a long time.

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