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Why C.S. Lewis Was Wrong on Marriage (and J.R.R. Tolkien Was Right)

Lewis surrendered his central conviction when he argued for "two distinct kinds of marriage."
Under your limitations of space you have not, of course, had opportunity to elaborate your "policy"—toleration of abuse. … A Christian of your view is, as we have seen, committed to the belief that all people who practice "divorce"—certainly divorce as it is now legalized—are misusing the human machine (whatever philosophical defense they may put up), as certainly as men who get drunk (doubtless with a philosophic defense also). They are injuring themselves, other people, and society, by their behavior. And wrong behavior (if it is really wrong on universal principles) is progressive, always: it never stops at being "not very good," "second best"—it either reforms, or goes on to third-rate, bad, abominable.
The last Christian marriage I attended was held under your system: the bridal pair were "married" twice. They married one another before the Church's witness (a priest), using one set of formulas, and making a vow of lifelong fidelity (and the woman of obedience); they then married again before the State's witness… using another set of formulas and making no vow of fidelity or obedience. I felt it was an abominable proceeding—and also ridiculous, since the first set of formulas and vows included the latter as the lesser. In fact it was only not ridiculous on the assumption that the State was in fact saying by implication: I do not recognize the existence of your church; you may have taken certain vows in your meeting place but they are just foolishness, private taboos, a burden you take on yourself: a limited and impermanent contract is all that is really necessary for citizens. In other words this "sharp division" is a piece of propaganda, a counter-homily delivered to young Christians fresh from the solemn words of the Christian minister.

Tolkien understood the stakes. The debate strikes at the heart of what it means to confess that the Christian faith is "true." As Tolkien wrote, no article of Christian morality is intended exclusively for Christians. Rather, the faith teaches us that submitting to the laws of our creator is the surest way to live reconciled lives with his creation. This is what we ought to mean when we say Christianity is true. We don't simply mean that it provides factually accurate information about the world or that it offers an authentic path to spiritual fulfillment for those who choose to follow it. We mean that Christianity gives an accurate accounting of the world in its fullness and that it instructs us in how we ought to relate to the world.

In writing to Lewis on these matters Tolkien would have been preaching to the choir. Which is precisely what makes this oft-quoted section of Mere Christianity so baffling. If it came from any other pen, the natural thing would be to point out that the presuppositions behind the author's analogy are faulty. The argument simply assumes that religious dogma is strictly personal and, therefore, ultimately relative. You have your practices and I have mine. In this view, religious teachings are not a true description of how to live well and justly in the world, they are just a set of suggested behaviors that followers of a religion should consider practicing. There is no necessary connection between a religious command and human flourishing. This is simply the modern view of religion: Religion consists of private devotional beliefs and (empty) public ritual.


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Jim Gustafson

December 28, 2012  1:01pm

Well-written article, and good comments too! On the whole, I have to agree more with Lewis as regards public policy, while I prefer Tolkein's emphasis on universal truth. Looks like most of the correspondents here think similarly. But try this thought experiment: take CS Lewis's statement, and apply it not to divorce, his era's hot topic, but to our hot topic, gay marraige. Does it change anyone's views? Discuss.

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Doug Wright

December 20, 2012  1:32am

There is sharp division between state registered and Church officiated marriage; a line now obliterated here long before there in England. Lewis is a bit of a visionary here and makes a point about what might be a more advertised distinction. J.R.R. makes a better point on naturality; Divorce for example was illegal in Rome, the natural state of man is to cause marriage to endure. We have so inverted nature that his bold statement of Patriarchy needs to be pointed out today as much as it was assumed in his day. We are blinded by our status quo; the state manipulates divorce to dissipate its people. It started in Soviet Union as a way to prevent organisation against Communism and here later to bolster state. In general history is natural, patriarchal (exceptions only proving the rule). Only state perverts this now, for the goal of subjugating fathers. Is there any contract so diminished by state? Marriage law should be held to a "Christian" standard like parenthood or property.

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Jon Trott

December 19, 2012  3:12pm

Lewis was far too liberal to be tolerated. (Wink.) In fact I think his one-paragraph argument completely convincing, regardless of all the words that followed it in this article or from J. R. R. Tolkien. The Church should uphold biblical marriage. The Church should *not* dictate biblical marriage to the state, just as it should not dictate other articles of faith to the state (such as the Trinity or Salvation via Christ alone). We have a tightrope to walk, and only via the Holy Spirit can we walk it. But insisting upon Christian marriage for non-christian people is both absurd and an act of anti-evangelism.

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