He grew up in a dysfunctional family and bounced through the foster care system, an unlikely background for someone destined to lead an evangelical family-equipping organization. But that's just where Jim Daly finds himself today, as the President and CEO of Focus on the Family. Daly's first book, Finding Home, detailed his difficult childhood. His latest book, The Good Dad: Becoming the Father You Were Meant to Be, shows that a rough upbringing need not ruin one's ambitions of leading a healthy family. Pastor and author Daniel Darling spoke with Daly about how men, no matter how broken their past (or present), can become godly fathers.
You shared your story of growing up in a dysfunctional family environment in your memoir, Finding Home. Did this upbringing ever cause you to doubt your ability to be a good father?
I'm not sure that I ever thought about it in quite those terms. Ability was never really the central question in my mind. I've always been an optimist by temperament, and when I'm given a job to do—whether it's quarterbacking, running an organization, or parenting a child—I'm usually pretty good at jumping into the ring and giving it my best shot.
What my upbringing has done for me is to shine a big spotlight on the crucial importance of having—and being—a good dad. I learned what that meant by default. Because I never had a positive male role model in my life, I understood the value of an involved father in a way that many of my friends from intact families simply couldn't grasp. I knew what I wanted for my own kids precisely because I'd never had it myself. That has made a big difference in my life.1