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Donna Freitas is very worried about today's college students. If you read The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture Is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy (Basic Books), you will be worried too. Freitas provides ...

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Heather Munn

May 12, 2013  10:01pm

@Hannah - yes, I think that's spot on. I also think that in a time when feminists are reminding us that all sex without consent is rape (it doesn't become rape only when violence is used or threatened) we ought to be talking, in the same breath, about how deeply problematic it is that some young women are having sex they don't really want because they feel it's expected of them. I don't think the secular world wants to touch that one... well, maybe that's not quite true, there are certain feminists putting forth the notion of "enthusiastic consent" as the benchmark and that's certainly a big improvement.

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John Stadt

May 03, 2013  9:46am

This is just one more of those sad areas where we had something important to say and just said the wrong thing. We have a message of the importance or fidelity, responsibility and integrity in relationships. We believe that the genius of two people committing to each other is the pay off for learning real intimacy with first, self-understanding, and then commitment to understanding another person. We could have preached "learn how good understanding and intimacy is" and instead we preached "don't have sex." If you preach the former and you really believe it the later takes care of itself. You can preach the later all day and in the end it will be failure. It is a gross oversimplification but the OT told us what not to do and we found out that didn't work. The NT told us what we should do and if we do it, the don't take care of themselves. But in defense of this oversimplification, we have become the people who tell everyone where they are wrong and tell them what not to do.

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ALFRED J Lindh

May 02, 2013  4:45pm

I found Caroline Simon's review of "The End of Sex" useful and interesting. I would like to know if she has written other reviews or materials about sex outside marriage.

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Hannah N.

May 02, 2013  11:04am

One thing I'm wondering about: If hookup culture promotes "bad sex" and "drunken sex you don't remember" - might it not also promote acquaintance rape? There's a bit of a blurry line there between "drunken sex you don't remember" and "sex you weren't able to consent to because you were unconscious." Particularly if participants are "less than willing" to begin with.

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