Wow, I had no idea that the rank and file of most christians were as wholeheartedly opposed to sex as the comments suggest. Where all all those babies at church coming from every Sunday? If sex wasn't important in God's plan in marriage then homosexual marriage wouldn't be so taboo in the church. I've always suspected that the apostle Paul had homosexual tendencies by his insistence on going on his "missions" with other guys.
Sarah
Posted: October 27, 2008 11:06 AM
This book needs to just go away. The title is an outright lie. They didn't even "do it" for 365 days, nor do they define "doing it". Plus, she had a "co-author" for a book about the most intimate part of her life. Obviously this was a stunt -- both are in PR so I guess it makes sense. No, if you want to read a book that is real and honest, I would suggest Douglas Brown's "JUST DO IT" -- a much more colorful and funny book about how making love can ignite those things that get lost in the years...like communicating and just merely touching. Spirituality is sacred, as is our bond with our partner...having them join together is a beautiful, beautiful thing...
contented
Posted: October 24, 2008 8:33 AM
My point is not that making love should be some taboo subject or that we should not sacrifice for our spouses. My point is that when you let everyone know how much you sacrificed--it is no longer a sacrifice. You have (to quote Wisdom Himself) already received your reward. Whatever happened (in the Christian world especially) to "not letting your left hand know what your right hand is doing"? The whole point of intimacy is intimacy. Sweet communing and private moments with the person you love the most. Whether it be in the bedroom or the prayer room.
Contented
Posted: October 23, 2008 3:58 PM
A "Memoir of Intimacy" eh! Me thinks if you can publish a book about it--the inimacy part is no longer relevant. Sounds more like lockeroom bravado to me. When marital lovemaking becomes a duty, or a sacrifice, there is a whole, new , deeper set of problems in the relationship. Then she wrote a book about it!! She gave her husband the gift of herself, and then shared it with the world (no doubt at $20.00 + a pop) I always knew that Christian printers were no different. Shame on them for publishing this. Sex sells, no matter what your "mission" statement is.
Some things are nobody elses business - and this is one of them!
Premika
Posted: October 23, 2008 2:20 AM
Sacrificing for your partner & DOING SOMETHING EVERYDAY to make your partner happy are so important to make marriage work or to revitalize a dying marriage. Some men may not want daily sex...so it's up to us wives to find out what my unique man's needs are & do my best to give them to him. But most important would be praying for him & asking for God's help as to how best I can make him happy
Ed Wal
Posted: October 23, 2008 1:46 AM
Sexual drive/need is personal and varies depending on upbringing & exposure. So some may want it more than others. Consideration of one's spouse can take many forms. Whilst non-sexual aspects may rank higher for some, what else exemplifies intimacy more - the "one flesh"-ness of marriage. Blessed is Brad to have a wife who thinks of him selflessly & submissively. I would like such a birthday gift! My wife uses sex to "control" me, that is when she isn't manipulating in other ways. So sex everyday is out of the question - let alone once a few months! So it's an interesting gift!
m
Posted: October 22, 2008 4:54 PM
Good night (no pun intended) - I don't even want my husband to see that book . . .
t.
Posted: October 22, 2008 3:52 PM
men who are friends with the Beloved want friendship, affection and companionship and partnership not sex. Eroticism is something that mature people leave behind when they grow heavenward because there is no marriage in heaven.
Roger
Posted: October 22, 2008 1:27 PM
There was a church who had a 30 day sex exploration and my wife and I tried this, I lasted for only 15 days though. It was grand. Cannot comment for my wife, but she appeared enthusiastic. I think the lack of sex in marriage is the cause of many marriages committing adultery with their eyes, hearts, and even organs. If women on a whole would understand that it is a large part for males, I think they would get further mileage out of their husbands. My rating is on the idea of such a book.
very anonymous wife
Posted: October 22, 2008 1:22 PM
I was 25 back 17 years ago when I married my husband, who was 29. The only time we've ever had sex every day was during our honeymoon. By then we were so worn out that our bodies couldn't keep up. I cannot imagine how ANYBODY, young as we were then or middle-aged as we are now, can have daily sex. For those of us who refuse to scarf little blue Viagra pills, that is absolutely an untenable goal and will likely frustrate ordinary people with real lives who attempt such. Daily sex would entail sex during menstration, something my husband and many other Christians find repulsive. Bottom line: sex is NOT about notching your belt but about something far, far deeper. How about something almost reasonable -- sex three times a week, with abundant grace for those weeks that three just isn't possible -- and doing Marriage Encounter dialogues, Scripture reading, Bible study and other marriage-building activities that are far more likely to result in success.
LIsa
Posted: October 22, 2008 1:10 PM
Anyone who is willing to sacrifice for their spouse should be applauded this is what makes marriages work. I am sure she wasn't disappointed at the end of the evening or at the end of the year this is what worked for her and her husband. It's not like she promised to change the oil in the car everyday or some of the many other things husbands do. Making love everyday should be required for husbands and wives.
Sharon Johnson
Posted: October 22, 2008 1:00 PM
As a male I don't want sex every day. there are days when I am tired, troubled and/or tense and don't feel like making love. Love is about connecting with a person deeply and intimately and sensitively - the physical expression of this love matters ... but even more, the emotional and spiritual facets matter. I haven't read the book, but cannot imagine that "sex everyday" is the thing I would most "want" from my wife. Beyond all this, Christ has called me to ask what can I do for my wife, not what do I want from my wife.
Diane
Posted: October 22, 2008 12:24 PM
"She so loathed the idea of having sex at the end that she became tense before even changing into her pajamas." Further proof ANYONE can get a book published . . . and that there are still some wives willing to be indoctrinated that they should submit to and nurture her male's Inner Caveman.
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