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Reign Over Me Our rating: Your rating:   MPAA rating: R (for language and some sexual references) Genre: Drama Theater release: March 23, 2007 by Sony Pictures Entertainment Directed by: Mike Binder Runtime: 2 hours 5 minutes Cast: Adam Sandler (Charlie Fineman), Don Cheadle (Alan Johnson), Jada Pinkett Smith (Janeane Johnson), Liv Tyler (Angela Oakhurst) Related: Talk About It/Family Corner

The often powerful and relatable Reign Over Me is about a New York man named Charlie Fineman (Adam Sandler) who lost his wife and three daughters suddenly and tragically. Years later, he has yet to move on. He's stayed in the same home, quit his job and withdrawn into himself. He's shut down emotionally and socially. He won't discuss his family—or seemingly even think of them. He doesn't deal with the past; he ignores it. His life is comprised of listening to music, remodeling his kitchen (over and over), and playing a fantasy video game. He is a sad shell of who he was because of grief, clinical depression, guilt and self-punishment.

When Charlie runs into his college roommate Alan (Don Cheadle), Charlie insists he doesn't remember Alan. He holds his old friend at a distance. Alan can't believe this disconnected and distant man is his old friend. But yet, Alan can't shake the feeling that rebuilding this friendship seems to be the only thing that may help Charlie begin overcoming his grief.

Adam Sandler as Charlie Fineman

Okay, that much we can tell from the commercials and trailers—but what exactly does the title "Reign Over Me" mean?

When Charlie feels threatened or must keep his mind from wandering to uncomfortable thoughts, he retreats into loud classic rock played over his headphones. One of those songs—played prominently several times in the film—is The Who's "Love, Reign O'er Me" (redone for the film's soundtrack by Pearl Jam). It's obvious that it's not just a random song placement. In fact, the song's title fills in the word missing from the film's name.

What does Charlie need to reign over him? Love.

In telling the story of Alan's steady, bold and abrasive love slowly brightening Charlie's dark world, Reign Over Me hits on poignant, profound themes that make you think. This movie will lead to great discussions. Christians will see several ideas and thoughts reflected from the Bible. And Charlie's attitudes, emotional traps and side effects of grief may remind any audience of hurting loved ones—or themselves. After the film, you may think of hurting friends you need to call. I did. You may feel the need to talk to your spouse about what you want for them if you pass on first. I did. There are just so many provocative truths.

Charlie reconnects with his old college roommate Alan

We see an example of why God designed us for close friendships and biblical fellowship. We see why we need one other—and, sometimes, need help from trained professionals. We see the importance of communication. We see the reality of people painfully holed up in their grief. We see the need to not run from or bury past loves, losses and mistakes, but instead remember—as painful as that process may be. We see why love is selfless. And we see the reason for Paul's message in Hebrews 10:24-25: "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit are doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching" (NIV).

At its heart, the movie is about people who have lost their bearings through tragedy, and dealing with it in unhealthy ways. It's redeeming and powerful—though uncomfortable to watch at times because it's about messy people navigating messy lives. And like in life, nothing heals quickly and easily. Instead, progress comes in fits and starts—and tends to hit rock bottom just when you think everything's getting better.

Alan and wife Janeane are having some problems of their own

Charlie's emotional journey out of depression and self-imposed exile from the world is the star of Reign Over Me. But it's not the only strength. The film has a good tone. Director and screenwriter Mike Binder hits a feel almost like The Graduate at times, creating beautiful moments—like a long, sweeping opener of Sandler weaving through New York on his scooter—and balancing reality with subtle but frequent humor. Binder successfully works laugh-out-loud moments and fun into an otherwise heavy and poignant film. Despite Sandler's presence and some of the commercials' appearance, this is a drama first and foremost—but one that's adept at weaving in those real-life lighter moments that pop up in even the darkest times. (Another misleading aspect of the commercials is the presence of Donald Sutherland. Though featured in some trailers, Sutherland is barely in the movie.)

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