Is Dancing Wrong?
The church I go to believes dancing is wrong. That hasn't been a big deal to me until this year. I'm a junior, and we have the Junior Ball coming up. I know there will be dancing there, but I really want to go. What should I do?
What you end up doing—whether you go to the dance or not—isn't as important as the questions you work through to reach your decision. The questions you're probably already asking yourself are, "Why is dancing wrong?" and "If I go to the ball, what will people at my church say?"
Now is the best time to begin taking ownership of your beliefs. But you should also get together with your parents and your youth leader or pastor to discuss this further. Is your church really dead set against dancing, or only certain kinds of dancing? What is the biblical basis for this belief? See if they might have some practical guidelines for you if you go to the ball. And ask them, "What advice would you give me in seeking God's direction in dancing and other cultural issues?"
You might be pleasantly surprised by what you hear. On the other hand, you may find your parents also have reservations about dancing. If they're not open to further discussion, I think you should respect their wishes by planning an alternate event or staying home.
Let's say you don't get a strong response either way. This is your chance to ask God for wisdom as you make a decision. Keep James 1:5 in mind: "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."
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