I Hate Being Teased
I've always been pretty short for my age. Most of my friends are much taller, and they tease me a lot. If this is as tall as I get, how can I be OK with it? And with the teasing?
I don't know you, but I can honestly tell you that you are a perfectly created person. I know this because God created you. Your worth doesn't come from how tall or short you are. Or how much you weigh or what color hair you have. True beauty comes from the inside, not from the outside.
Of course, that's easy to say. It's harder to deal with every day. Every person, no matter how confident or wonderful–looking they seem, has something they dislike about themselves.
The Apostle Paul had something in his life that he felt held him back. But he learned a lesson from God. He wrote: "At first I didn't think of it as a gift, and begged God to remove it. Three times I did that, and then he told me, 'My grace is enough; it's all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness.' Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ's strength moving in on my weakness" (2 Corinthians 12:8-9, CEV).
If we hand over our weakness to God, he can use it in amazing ways. He is made strong in our weaknesses because that's where we rely on him.
As for the teasing, there are a few things you can do. First, start trying to see yourself like God does. He sees you with different eyes than humans do (1 Samuel 16:7). The teasing can't go away, but God can change your attitude so that you're lifted up by his acceptance, not brought down by put–downs.
Also, if the teasing is coming from friends or family members, you know they care for you. You can pull them aside and say, "You know, that's something I'd rather not be teased about." Explain how you feel in a way that lets them know you are serious but not mad about it. Of course, you won't feel comfortable saying this to everyone, but just remember: Your height doesn't make up who you are. God does.
Due to the volume of mail, Jim cannot answer every letter.
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