My Friend Doesn't Like Herself
My best friend has really low self-esteem. I've tried to help her, but nothing seems to work. She thinks my other friends and I are lying to her whenever we compliment her. What can I do?
There's not much you can do or say to change someone's mind about their self-image. But you can make a difference by being a caring and supportive friend. When your friend knows you are there for her, regardless of how she feels about herself, her personal outlook can begin to change.
For example, consider Jennifer. She once said: "I hate myself. I'm ugly, I'm stupid and I can't even imagine that God would love a person like me."
Robin stuck by her and by being a good friend showed her the love of God. As Jennifer grew and matured, her self-image began to change.
Today Jennifer is one of the key women youth speakers in America. She has often said, "I wouldn't be the person I am today if it weren't for Robin."
God loves us unconditionally, not for what we do but for who we are. God promises that he will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). When we finally grasp that concept, we can be free to like who we are because we know and believe God's promises. Share this verse with your friend, plus a few others like Genesis 1:27, 31; Psalm 139:13-16 and Ephesians 2:10. The Bible is an excellent resource. Use it to help your friend.
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