I Can't Stop Thinking About Him
About three years ago, I broke up with a guy I really loved. We've remained friends and I spend a lot of time with him and his parents. I've dated other people, but he hasn't. The problem is, I can't stop thinking about him. I'm not sure how he feels about me, but he does lots of special things for me, like buying me jewelry. I'm so confused. I know he's the one for me, but I'm afraid to make a move if he doesn't feel the same way. I love him so much, and I don't want to mess this up.
The only way you could mess this up is to do nothing. It's time to find out what the guy is thinking.
There are several ways to do that. You can call him. You can write him. You can get a mutual friend to tell him how you feel. The truth is, it doesn't matter how you do it, or what words you use. It's a simple message: "I really care about you. How do you feel about me?"
It's not traditional for a girl to ask that question, but considering your history with this guy, I think you can afford to be honest with him. If you're not comfortable telling him how you feel, you can at least show him by paying extra attention to him, spending more time with him, or sending him thoughtful notes to brighten his day. To be honest, some guys can be a little dense when it comes to picking up a girl's signals, so don't be surprised if this more subtle approach goes right over his head.
Three years is long enough to wonder. Since your feelings have remained strong all this time, you really need to find out what's going on. Go ahead and tell him how you feel. No matter what his reply, at least you can face reality and move on with your life.