Why don’t people wear their Sunday Best for church any more?
A lot of older churchgoers (that is, my generation) seem to be worried about that lately.
I’d like to respond to that question with a couple of my own.
When did the members of my generation become such old fogeys? And why do they care so much about something that matters so little?
Yet that is part of a growing sentiment from my peers.
According to far too many older churchgoers and pastors, some of the biggest problems in the church today are
- Skinny jeans
- Coffee cups
- Wood pallets on stage
- Stage lighting
- Spikey or swooped-back hair
- Scruffy beards
- Smart phones
- Short pants
- and untucked shirts
It’s hard to imagine anything that would concern Jesus less than how we dress for church. Or the technology and instruments we use while we’re there.
As a member of the age group that is making most of these complaints, here’s my take on it.
We can either whine about how the new generation chooses to worship, or we can worship and minister with them. But we can’t do both.
Don’t we remember when churchgoers in our parents’ generation complained about the length, color or poofiness of our hair? Or the rolled-up sleeves and lack of a tie on our pastel-colored Miami Vice suit? Not to mention that we replaced some of their beloved hymns with our new praise songs, sung with guitars, not organs?
Have we forgotten how devalued we felt when they told us our music was too loud, our clothing looked silly, our questions were inappropriate and our opinions were wrong? It didn’t make us want to worship their way. It made us want to leave the church. And many of us did – never to return.
What Is Proper Church Dress and Behavior?
What’s considered proper clothing and behavior in one culture isn’t the same in another culture. Or another era. Or in a different church down the street.
Respectful clothing will include
- Aloha shirts in Hawaii
- Cowboy boots in Montana
- Removing your shoes in Japan
- Kilts in Scotland
- and maybe suits and dresses in your church
You know how people dress when they come to the church I pastor? They wear the same clothes they wear when they do other things they enjoy. Since we live in Southern California, that often means tennis shoes and T-shirts, skinny jeans and ball caps.
Teens and twenty-somethings regularly come to our church ready to go to the beach afterwards. They stroll in wearing shorts, grab a coffee in the church lobby, then bring it with them into the sanctuary. They chat and laugh as they head to their seat in the front two rows – yes the front rows. From the moment the band starts playing, they’re on their feet, entering into worship with all their heart and soul.