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5 Things You Should Never Say To A Small Church Pastor 
Don’t just get the content right. Consider how it might feel to the hurting pastors who need your help the most.

It might be – which we probably know already. But it might not be – which we may not be able to see through the disappointing numbers.

Hearing “all healthy things grow” when your church isn’t growing makes us feel like the patient in the old – and really bad – joke about the guy whose doctor tells him he’s dying. Then, when he asks for a second opinion the doctor tells him, “okay, you’re ugly, too.”

What you may have intended as a friendly reminder can feel like knives in the back to the receiver.

5. “You need to try harder, work smarter, pray more, dream bigger, teach better...”

...attend this conference, read this book...

Yes. We do.

We all do.

No matter how big, small or fast-growing a church is, we can always do ministry smarter and better.

No matter how big, small or fast-growing a church is, we can always do ministry smarter and better.

That’s why we’re Googling phrases like “why isn’t my church growing?” It’s not because we don’t care, it’s because we care so much that it hurts when all that work, caring, passion, prayer and learning doesn’t have the results we’ve been told we should be having.

Don’t tell us to run faster on the wheel. Help us get off the wheel, get healthy and get our joy back again.

What Should We Say Instead?

Thanks for asking.

In my next post, 5 Simple Statements Any Small Church Pastor Would Love To Hear, I take look at some things that can help, bless and encourage our fellow small church pastors.

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May 10, 2017 at 3:36 AM

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