Nancy Ortberg, founding partner of Teamworx2 and editorial advisor and contributor to Gifted for Leadership and Kyria.com, spoke on powerful themes inspired by her books, "Unleashing the Power of Rubber Bands" and "Looking for God."
1. The Seduction of Influence
It's tempting to do it for all the wrong reasons. In our lives, there may be a tearing away of the seductions and a refining of the right reasons.
Word 1: Ego. We've brought the celebrity culture into our church and overlook people who are so like Jesus. We attribute more to up-front people than we should, more to attractive people than we should. The solution is to live more deeply into our brokenness.
Word 2: Burden. We place on ourselves a burden in leadership–our numbers, the highs and lows of leadership–it's about power, control, and outcomes, and Jesus didn't talk fondly about any of those things. Free leaders–free of the need for certain outcomes–are the best leaders.
2. The Myths of Influence
Myth 1: "There are no limits to my influence." No matter how much I want to influence and shape someone, though, the reality is that there is still space between us. The best thing we can do is to plant seeds, to put the truth and grace out there, and let God work in the other person over time. Parker Palmer talks about the tragic gap: we live between the potential and the reality of what we are. It's painful to live in that gap.
Myth 2: "Be like me." Saul dresses David in his armor, but Saul is a warrior and David is a shepherd. David said, "I cannot go in these, because I am not used to them." He took them off. A great parent lets each child develop uniquely.
3. The Power of Influence
Good influence is deeply based in relationships. List the people who have most influenced ...