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Home > 2012 > November Online Only > Sacrificial Lamb Syndrome (Part Two)

If you've ever witnessed the turbulence of losing a long-time pastor, it's hard to believe that the church will even hold together. Most will recover in time and discover a new normal. Unfortunately, getting there is a wrenching experience leaving behind wounded pastors, scattered sheep, and a tarnished witness in the community.

But there is a better way. It begins with acknowledging the existence of individual and corporate emotions in grieving the pastoral loss. Deeply invested church members feel an organizational, spiritual, and relational deficit. Only with time can they begin to grasp the many ways in which this loss will change their lives.

Time, Process, and Expectations

Grieving is a slow process. After a person loses a spouse, we caution them not to hurry into a new relationship. Similarly, church leadership needs to resist the pressure of moving too quickly. Two years may seem like an eternity before hiring a new pastor, but it's a small price to pay for a healthy transition. Take your time. Slow the process down. God's people need time to feel their grief.

Organizationally intentional churches will often bring in leaders to focus on the transitional process. Systemic issues and strategic priorities should not be neglected. But rarely do churches offer an intentional process to prepare the congregation for the emotional impact of a new pastoral relationship. If they don't process through their emotions, the congregation runs a risk of either selecting the wrong pastoral successor or turning a perfectly good one into a Sacrificial Lamb—all because they didn't fully let go of their last pastor.

Finally, the congregation needs to be told what to expect in the days to come. Expectations can be discussed from the pulpit, in print, and in small groups. There will be change, discomfort, disappointment, and a range of emotions related to this loss, especially for those with a deep personal investment in the previous pastor. Acknowledging these expectations does not reveal a lack of spirituality in church members; it honors the gift God gave them in their previous pastor.

Moving Forward

Churches often overcompensate in the selection of a new pastor. They find a replacement with all of the strengths lacking in their previous pastor, but ultimately resent her for being unlike what they knew and loved. This is a sign that the church has not grieved the loss of their pastor enough to acknowledge their true ministerial value. They underestimate their loss and overestimate their readiness for change.

Losing an effective pastor will always be a profound personal loss for those who are deeply invested in that pastor's life and ministry. If congregations do not meaningfully and spiritually process this grief, emotions will emerge in unpredictable ways. All too often this means the next pastor will serve little purpose beyond acting as a Sacrificial Lamb, taking on the frustrations of the many, and carrying them away in exile.

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Related Topics:AngerChangeConflictEmotionsGriefPastor's Role
Posted: November 5, 2012

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James Awosina

November 14, 2012  3:36am

Excellent article. Unmasking what we refuse to acknowledge. Someday, somehow, we will certainly miss a darling, devoted, dutiful and dynamic pastor; we must be armed with scriptural and practical knowlege on how to transit to the next level of ministry as congregations, and especially as succeding leaders. Many thanks Mike. Regards, James

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