Cancer of the Attitude (Part One)
This is the first of a two-part post by Michael Cheshire. Stay tuned for Part 2 next week.
If my wife tells you she likes to run 5K races, don't believe her.
Oh, she has run her fair share of them, although rarely with any training, and often after signing up the day before. However, it isn't the run she loves; it's what goes with it. It's the free T-shirts and worthy causes that get her into the race.
Her closet is a museum on hangers; a rainbow of colored t-shirts spanning nearly every disease known to humanity. The vast majority, though, are for battling cancer. Breast cancer. Colon cancer. Cancer research for children. You name it; odds are she has the T-shirt. And I get it. Cancer is a brutal invader in our lives. It has taken some of our closest friends and family members.
The importance of self-exams
I'm not a runner. But I still go to these 5ks and hang out at the finish line with the kids. I usually spend my time reading pamphlets on cancer as I try to score snacks from the race coordinators. At a recent run, I struck up a conversation with a doctor. Prompted by the cause the runners were supporting, our conversation turned to cancer. I liked him because he used small words that helped me grasp what the disease does to the body. Towards the end of our conversation, I asked him what I could do to avoid this particular form of cancer. He smiled and said, "Find it first."
For most cancers, the sooner it is found, the higher one's rate of survival. "The first tool is early detection" he stated. This may be simple, but it's wise. Identifying an enemy in your body quickly will boost your odds of defeating it.
But isn't this principle true for more than just physical disease? So many times I am a carrier of things (that if they grow) can harm my relationships, my walk with God, not to mention my dreams and calling. Since that conversation with the doctor, I've thought about attitudes in a different way. Looking back, I can see points where my harmful attitudes were left unchecked, and limited my growth or compromised my character.
Now let's be honest. Examining our attitudes is not something most of us find appealing. If introspection was interesting, there would be a show about it on A&E. But without it, our bad attitudes grow stronger, turning from feelings into ways of thinking that can shape our speech, thoughts, and actions.
Good or bad, attitudes are the driving forces in our lives. They can bring us to the peaks of success, or to the valleys of failure. And just like cancer of the body, they can destroy us if we do not detect them early. "Self exams" are vital. I know that I am predisposed to several persistent wrong attitudes. And I'm not alone. Most people I ask can name two or three attitudes they have to examine for and guard against. And since the attitudes of a leader often affect (or infect) those we lead, I would like to share three that leaders need to examine.
The tumor of self pity
Few things profit us less than self-pity. You know how it feels. It's that strange desire to retreat and focus on how unfair our situation is. Life is rarely fair. When you are a leader it tends to be worse. A mentor of mine used to tell me when I was whining, "Michael, sometimes life stinks, so wear a helmet." These words have served me well. You don't have to be a leader long to understand that leadership is a contact sport. It should come with a mouth guard!