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As far as my experience: God has it all figured out, and I'm good with that. Knowing who is in control is a big deal.

As far as my experience: God has it all figured out, and I'm good with that. Knowing who is in control is a big deal. I'm not angry or bitter, just saddened by the situation. I have some Christian friends who are in the same situation, and at least one has turned his back on Christians completely. He still loves the Lord, but can't stand his followers. That's really sad.

Frankly, I believe my "real Christian world" situation is more the norm than what you have taken as a "fairly common type of Christian environment." Personally, I think that a lack of biblical depth and true maturity— a true grasp on the depth of our shared sinfulness and the breadth of God's grace—is a big part of the problem. Study of the Bible is at an all-time low. How does one exhibit grace when one has no idea what grace really is? Without knowledge of God's Word, it's hard to know how to react in "uncomfortable" situations. Couple this with the "culture war" mentality of so many highly visible ministries, and it's natural that most believers would have issues in dealing with those who struggle.

That is the way things seem to me. It may not be that way everywhere, but I suspect it's more common than you might think. Let's stay in touch.

Best Regards,


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Posted: November 25, 2013

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kerry slattery

December 18, 2013  2:51pm

WWJD? As a missionary, I cast out "LGBT" type demon spirits and minister inner-healing and discipleship to those who are seeking freedom from sexual confusion and perversion. Results are immediate and dramatic -disparate mannerisms etc. leave. Anyone suffering sexual torment and confusion can be set free and be healed. 1Cor.6:9-11! Deliverance from demons is the children's bread Matt.15:22. Do not be confused -you can be born with these demons due to sins of parents or thru abuse, rejection, wounding, sin. See: Bondage Breaker, Neil Anderson; Pigs in the Parlor, Frank Hammond; Theophostic Prayer Ministry www.theophostic.com; www.greatbiblestudy.com; www.tbm.org; www.ellelministries.org The church is asleep and deceived about this ministry largely and has no answer for those trapped and tormented in sexual addictions and perversions- tragic! Acts 2:38:Repent, be born-again, be baptized (Rom.6), receive the Holy Spirit, cast out demons Mark 16:15-19! Receive inner-healing prayer.

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December 18, 2013  11:08am

My grandson is 19-grew up in the church-made the decision at 16 not to attend anymore. He was born as male/female. The doctors decided to do surgery and made him as girl. A psychiatrist/surgeon at John Hopkins Hospital verified at 7 that he has a boy brain. He has had other problems such as dwarfism but growth hormones helped that somewhat. Bones in arms grew to the extent his arm would not take the growth so surgery was performed on both his arms to correct that-took several times to do that. Also, my daughter attempted to get his insurance to help pay for surgeries to correct mistake hospital made. He has male friends that he pals with and they have girlfriends so I don't know if he has sexual desires for them; however, he shows no desire for females. I keep asking him to go to church so he can get in the habit of attending but he just does not seem to want to or see the need to. My question is: if he does turn out to be homosexual is it his fault? I trust a forgiving God.

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Rod Hewitt

November 29, 2013  4:04am

Yes God Loves the sinner,he Hates the Sin.Are we to say Gods Love and Justice for us are wrong?Who are we to dare question Gods Love for us?He does Not delight in the Death of Sinners he calls all to Repentance through his Son Jesus. Can one be a Gay or Lesbian Christian?Answer to that is,for some on first entering the New Life in Christ,it happens Immediately that we can follow in Christs footsteps,others it may take sometime to realise what is going on in their New Life,we Must,through the Power of the Holy Spirit allow him to work in our lives to cleanse us from within,turn from sin and not go back,hence the word Repentance,turn away from sin the wilful sin,what is intended,we are forgiven our past sins and strive to live more each day for God.It is an Abomination to God to be gay, He created One Man,one Woman not same sex,.Remember allow His spirit to work in you he will set you free,I still pray for my cleansing as an ordinary person to live more like Jesus.God really LOVES You

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richard brooks

November 26, 2013  5:20pm

our King is looking for men and women who will love sacrificially, and who are willing to fight in the trenches, not just the pews! We are at war and the american church has retreated, to get fat, lazy, and as the church in laodicea we have become lukewarm. Jesus stated in order, we are to heal the sick, CAST OUT DEMONS, and preach the good news. But i think most americans think demons only exist in africa or the gospels. most homosexual attraction is based in, abuse and the demonic. this is why they still struggle after coming to the cross. These poor souls need deliverance and healing! MGod is looking for men who are willing to cast them out! I know from experience. he has cast out of me 31 demons to date, and delivered me powerfully from this bondage! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCyp1TpBBAE&sns=em

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Justin Davis

November 26, 2013  4:00pm

I found the both the original article and this exchange to be disappointing. I'll show my cards by sharing that I am a Christian, Baptist, who is also gay. I am currently in divinity school seeking ordination. The issue with both the original article and this exchange is that they present only one perspective on same-sex attracted (gay or lesbian) Christians. Not everyone who is Christian and same sex attracted struggles in darkness. Nor do most or any gay or lesbian people I know, let alone Christians, place their identity in their sexual orientation. I believe that is a trope used to dehumanize gay and lesbian persons to people largely unaware of the issues that we face. I encourage anyone to seek out resources that go beyond their own perspectives. I highly recommend Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.Christians Debate by Justin Lee. It is humble, honest, and shares a graceful approach to people on all sides of the issues surrounding LGBT Christians.

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