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The week I stepped into my new role as co-lead pastor, I attended a major convention for Christian leaders. I went with an open heart, hoping it would equip me for all that was ahead in my new ministry. It certainly did. But not in the way I expected.

The more workshops I attended and bookstands I perused, the stranger I felt. Suddenly I was an artist at a business convention, an introvert at an extrovert's gathering, a foreigner at an American event, a woman in a man's world. Everything that was going on there was good and godly and helpful to many … but it was not much help to me.

The programs and metrics didn't resonate with me. The assumptions didn't include me (statements like "leaders will be motivated by … " and "your church wants a man who … ") As far as I could tell, no one in this huge gathering of church leaders looked or sounded or thought like me. I hadn't gone with a chip on my shoulder, expecting to be marginalized. In fact, it was my expectation to be welcomed and included. Disillusioned, I fled to my hotel room, where I told God, "This job isn't for me. I have nothing to give. You've made a mistake."

The realization was so disturbing to me—after years of education and prayer and preparation for this role—that for the next 24 hours I couldn't leave that little hotel room. It's a blur to me now, but my memories of it include tears, retching, fitful sleep, and the kind of prayer that scrapes your insides on its way out. In the middle of my despair, God's voice was, as usual, assuring but vague: "A broken and contrite spirit I will not despise … In your weakness I am strong."

And so, I began my new phase of leadership, not with assurances of my great ability but with a mental map of the cavernous emptiness within.

And yet I also had a sense of God's strength, enough for me to step uneasily into the work he set before me. In the process, I've learned how real strength from weakness can be.

Strength From Weakness

Being a woman can feel like weakness. Your body teaches you your limits. From the time you're small, there is always someone bigger, with a stronger body and a deeper voice. And as you grow, you learn how little control you have over your own body, from a sometimes painful, often embarrassing inconvenience that will visit you every month to the strange season of having a person growing inside of you for 9 months. When the little bundle makes its appearance, your body goes from creator of life to sustainer of life. All kinds of new systems kick into gear. It's a miraculous process but one completely beyond your control. As you go from mother to grandmother, your body begins to change again, throwing you into a state of confusion as the steady cycles you have grown accustomed to become syncopated and erratic and then finally stop altogether.

Inhabiting this ever-changing form ...

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From Issue:The upside of failure, April 2014 | Posted: March 31, 2014

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REV SUSAN HETRICK

April 29, 2014  2:23pm

Thanks for this article - describes me to a tee - and it's so refreshing to look at my apparent "weaknesses" as strengths!

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Steve Sharp

April 29, 2014  1:00pm

What a refreshing look at leadership.

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Denise Hansen

April 29, 2014  12:45pm

Very Encouraging!

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CHRISTINA Anderson

April 21, 2014  10:24am

This was a very good article. Thank you.

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