Guarding Against an Affair
Theme for the Week: Guarding Against an Affair
Saturday, September 1, 2001
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Q. Where do most sexual affairs begin?
A. I'd estimate that 90 percent begin on the job. The attraction starts innocentlyyou're in a meeting and someone "catches your eye." Next comes some small talk, followed by more "talk." Later there's an excuse to be aloneit's just a harmles "business lunch." You share a personal problem or maybe a marital struggle, and your coworker "really understands." First there's a spark. Then an emotional affair ignites. And if the relationship grows, a sexual liaison often follows.
What can be done?
Take some protective steps:
1. Never meet in total privacy with someone of the opposite sexkeep the door open or cracked. I also do not eat alone with a woman other than my wife or a family member. Never.
2. Establish a "no secrets" policy in your marriage. Tell your spouse everything. Even share when you're tempted to be emotionally or mentally unfaithful. Temptation is not sin, but a hidden temptation can birth sin. If you just can't tell your spouse, ask a friend who is a follower of Christ to hold you accountable.
3. Don't share marital problems with a coworker of the opposite sex. Never.
4. Be careful about howif everyou touch a coworker.
5. Keep your "Joseph sneakers" on. Be ready to flee if caught off guard by a tempting situation.
6. Above all else, guard your heart.
Dennis Rainey directs the Little Rock, Arkansas-based FamilyLife Ministry.
Adapted from: Life@Work (3-4/2000)
Copyright © 2001 by the author or Christianity Today, Inc./Men of Integrity magazine.
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