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Who Said It
Doug Serven

Doug is the Reformed University Fellowship campus minister at the University of Oklahoma in Norman. Earlier, he directed Covenant Theological Seminary's Youth in Ministry Institute. Doug conducts TwentySomeone conferences, seminars, and events together with Craig Dunham, a musician and songwriter who works with The Navigators. Doug enjoys all sports and loves to read, travel, and discuss life. He and his wife, Julie, have four children.

What He Said
Her Problem Was …

I never realized how selfish I was until I got married. All of a sudden I had a roommate who was around all the time. She was there at night, in the morning, in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the garage … everywhere.

Of course, that was great much of the time—but not when she said she didn't like my eating dinner while watching SportsCenter or piling up the dishes until they grew legs and walked off or putting only one dollar's worth of gas in the car at a time. What was her problem?

Her problem was … me.

It took a long time for me to come to grips with the fact that I no longer ruled my world but was now part of a team working together under the lordship of our Savior. The gospel should have led me to be a servant right away. But I hadn't really thought much about how that call to servanthood—dying to self—should be demonstrated in my marriage.

Adapted from TwentySomeone (WaterBrook, 2003) by permission.

Prayer for the Week

Lord, give me a resolve to relate to my wife with Your kind of love.

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