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Key Bible Verse: There will be a division between father and son, mother and daughter, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law (Luke 12:53). Bonus Reading: Exodus 18:13-27

The first apron string to sever is the counseling string. When issues arise between a husband and wife, they should never first call mom and dad for advice. Rather, using the principles laid out in God's Word, they should prayerfully work out their own problems, seeking outside counsel only if necessary.

Setting up your own household doesn't mean you must terminate the relationship with your parents. You're to leave them, not forsake them or forgo all their influence. Their hard-won experience can still play a vital role in your lives. Consider the biblical examples of Naomi, the mother-in-law who had a beautiful relationship with her daughter-in-law Ruth. And recall Jethro, the father-in-law of Moses, who pulled him aside and told him he was working himself to death. Taking his advice made Moses' service to God much more effective.

The second string to cut is the economic string. It's hard for some married children to leave behind the security of the homes and lifestyles in which they grew up. But if you want a healthy marriage, you must leave the "safety net" of your parents behind and create your own "home, sweet home."

—Ed Young in The 10 Commandments of Marriage

My Response: One way I can still benefit from parental experience is …

Thought to Apply: Behind every successful man is a proud wife and a surprised mother-in-law. —HUBERT H. HUMPHREY (American politician, vice president)

Adapted from The 10 Commandments of Marriage (Moody, 2003) by permission.

Copyright © 2005 by the author or Christianity Today International/Men of Integrity magazine. Click here for reprint information on Men of Integrity.

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Prayer for the Week

Lord, I realize that honoring my parents is a part of fully honoring You. Help me to lovingly fulfill this obligation.

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