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Key Bible Verse: If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the fault (Matthew 18:15). Bonus Reading: Proverbs 11:24-25

To build mistrust: Complain to others about problems you're having with a peer without trying to solve the problem directly. Establish an atmosphere where this is tolerated. (It is foolish to belittle a neighbor.—Proverbs 11:12)But to build trust: Solve problems through direct communication at the lowest equivalent level: you and your peers; you and your direct manager; you, your manager, and his manager. Establish an atmosphere where this is the culture.

To build mistrust: Take credit for yourself, or allow others to give you credit for an achievement that wasn't all yours. (Don't praise yourself; let others do it!—Proverbs 27:2)But to build trust: Share credit generously. When in doubt, share.

To build mistrust: Make a pretend or "halfhearted" commitment, e.g., "I'll get back to you." (If you can help your neighbor now, don't say, "Come back tomorrow, and then I'll help you."—Proverbs 3:28)But to build trust: When in doubt about taking on a commitment, air your concerns with the relevant parties. In an ongoing commitment, communicate anticipated slippage as soon as you suspect it. Ask for help.

—Arky Ciancutti & Thomas Steding in Built on Trust

My Response: What change would make me a better trust builder?

Thought to Apply: A boss creates fear, a leader confidence. A boss fixes blame, a leader corrects mistakes. A boss knows all, a leader asks questions.—RUSSELL EWING

Adapted from Built on Trust (McGraw-Hill, 2000) by permission.

Copyright © 2005 by the author or Christianity Today International/Men of Integrity magazine.Click here for reprint information on Men of Integrity.

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Lord, help me to promote a shared vision and mesh my energies with those of others to achieve it.

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