Who Said It
Jeff Feldhahn

Jeff Feldhahn is cofounder and CEO of the tech company World2one, and an attorney specializing in corporate law. In 2004, his wife published For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, which became a bestseller. So naturally Shaunti and Jeff were asked to do a similar volume for guys. Jeff rose to the challenge with For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women.

What He Said
The Right Security Blanket

Most guys have heard that women want security. But what does that mean exactly? A house? A savings account? Tuition for the kids? It's a huge shock to talk to hundreds of women and find that while financial security is nice, it isn't nearly as important to them as feeling emotionally secure.

So what does emotional security look like? She has it when she feels that the two of you are close—that she is your love and your best friend … when she sees that you make time together a priority … when you demonstrate commitment to being there for her no matter what … when you're active in parenting and the life of the home.

We men must ask ourselves whether we're delivering what our wives genuinely need. Or have we bought into internal or cultural assumptions that are actually sabotaging what matters most? Believe it or not, ensuring emotional security turns out to be a lot easier than ensuring the financial security you're probably busting your tail to provide.

Adapted from For Men Only (Multnomah, 2006) by permission.

Prayer for the Week

Lord, You designed male and female to complement each other. Help me mesh with Your design.

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