Who Said It
Peter Scazzero

Peter Scazzero is the founding pastor of New Life Fellowship Church in Queens, New York—a congregation representing at least 65 nationalities. Out of his painful marital and pastoring experiences, Pete and his wife Geri embarked on a journey to integrate emotional health and biblical spirituality. The results led Pete to launch the Center for Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.

What He Said
This Little Light of Mine

I experience life with me at the center of my universe. But to grow spiritually, a Copernican revolution must take place in how I perceive myself in relation to others.

When Copernicus removed human beings from the center of the universe and said we revolve around the sun, not vice versa, it sent a shock wave through Western civilization. To discover the "otherness" of your wife (or child, friend, boss, coworker) as a separate, unique human being—without losing yourself—is also a Copernican revolution of emotional maturity.

When Geri and I were married, we lit what is recognized today as the unity candle. There were two separate candles representing our separate lives. After taking our vows, we lit a third candle and extinguished the two separate ones. This symbolized we were now "one."

"We are one," we proclaimed to our family and friends. The question we did not answer was: "Which one?" For the first nine years of our marriage, I unconsciously answered that question with: "Yes, Geri and I are one, and I am the one!"

Adapted from Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (Integrity, 2006) by permission.

Prayer for the Week

Deliver me, sovereign Lord, from attempting to manage You. Help me to honor You by trusting and submitting to Your control.

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