Key Bible Verse: "So we the servants of the God of your father, beg you to forgive us" (Genesis 50:17). Bonus Reading: Genesis 50:14-21

If you want someone to respond positively to a confession, make it a point to apologize for what you've done. If you suspect that someone was deeply hurt by your conduct but is reluctant to tell you so, first ask this person how he or she felt as a result of your behavior.

An apology is an expression of sorrow or regret for hurting another person's feelings or interests. Here's an example of how this can be done: "I can see why you were frustrated when I didn't deliver the parts on time. I'm sorry I failed to keep my commitment to you."

One way to make your apology meaningful is to describe a similar experience from your own life and how it made you feel. For example: "I can imagine how you feel. I was falsely accused by an employer too. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. I'm sorry I've put you through the same thing."

If the one you've apologized to doesn't express forgiveness on his own, you can now ask, "Will you please forgive me?" This question often helps the offended person decide to forgive you. But if he or she isn't yet ready, you'll need to allow him or her time to think and pray.

—Ken Sande in The Peacemaker

My Response: What was the response when I last asked someone to forgive me?

Thought to Apply: We fear accepting forgiveness from another because such a gift makes us powerless, and we fear the loss of control involved. —Stanley Hauerwas

Adapted from The Peacemaker (Baker, 1991, 1997, 2004) by permission.

Prayer for the Week

Prod me, Lord, to own up to my sin, deal with its consequences, and alter my behavior.

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