Philip Carlson is senior pastor of Bethany Church of Sierra Madre, California, and a medical doctor with a family practice in Pasadena. In addition, he teaches at the college level and is a conference speaker. He is the author of Love Written in Stone—the book from which this week's readings are adapted. He lives in Sierra Madre with his wife, Carole, and their four children.
What he Said … Good Sex
Sex is a gift. God created us as sexual beings, with a sexual identity, and with a capacity for sexual relationships (Gen. 2:7, 18-25). Sex is intended for our pleasure, as we see it celebrated in the Song of Songs with its joy, playfulness, eroticism, and ecstasy. It is also intended to be an expression of love and joy-filled commitment [that lasts] a lifetime. It contributes to a sense of connection and investment, providing a means of bonding and experiencing deep intimacy with another person as we join body and spirit. It allows us to give a part of ourselves to another person. It brings with it the possibility of producing children and all the responsibilities that come with them.
Sex was made for marriage—one man and woman in a relationship built on mutual love and respect, rooted in lifetime commitment ex-pressing the character and sacrifice of Jesus (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:4-6; Eph. 5:21-23). All other relational expressions of our sexuality outside of this context are described by the Bible as sin or sexual immorality and are to be avoided.