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Has the Fun Faded?
Theme of the Week: Marriage: Don't Neglect the Friendship
Tuesday, February 11, 2014

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Key Bible Verse: Men ought to love their wives just as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself. (Ephesians 5:28, GNT)

Dig Deeper: Ephesians 5:21-33

When you were dating you [and your wife] discovered you had common interests, and those were the things you did together. So, the question is, do the two of you still do any of those things you did when you were dating? If not, have you replaced them with fun things more suitable to your age or physical abilities? Or, like so many married couples, have you allowed fun to fade into the background or even disappear in the clutter of cares, responsibilities, humdrum routines, or the so-called realities of life?

I have heard some couples complain that over the years they have grown apart, and they no longer have in common those things that first drew them together. Well, I agree that we all grow and change as we mature. When people marry young, these changes may be dramatic as both are still discovering themselves and defining who they are. This can mean diverging interests, but it need not mean the couple drifts apart. Even if you develop widely different interests, each of you can make it a point to show interest in the other's pursuits. And you can maintain a firm grip on those things in common that initially drew you together.

—Stephen Arterburn in The 7 Minute Marriage Solution

My Response: I'll talk to my wife about the fun we had while dating. I'll suggest that we schedule some of these fun activities back into our lives.

Thought to Apply: Marriage is the highest state of friendship. If happy, it lessens our cares by dividing them, at the same time that it doubles our pleasures by mutual participation.—Samuel Richardson(writer)

Excerpted from—The 7 Minute Marriage Solution by Stephen Arterburn © 2013. Published by Worthy Publishing, a division of Worthy Media, Inc., Brentwood, TN. Used by permission. Twitter: #7MinuteMarriage @WorthyPub.

Prayer for the Week
Heavenly Father, show my wife and me how we can strengthen our marriage; and even in difficult times, help us to still look at one another at the end of the day and say, "You are my best friend."

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Curt Schleicher

March 25, 2014  9:11am

This is a good reminder for myself to keep the candle in my marriage alive & burning. Show her that I really care about her well being and interests. Make a sacrifice daily to this end so our relationship will grow & prosper.

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