Matt Carter is pastor of preaching and vision at Austin Stone Community Church, a congregation with four campuses in Austin, Texas. Matt helped create the For the City Network, an organization that helps churches partner with social service agencies. He co-authored The Real Win: A Man's Quest for Authentic Success with NFL quarterback Colt McCoy.
What he Said … Losing What Really Counts
Awhile back I was talking with a group of people at a backyard event associated with my church when I noticed a little boy hanging around and looking as if he didn't have anything to do. Just to be friendly, I started talking to him. I asked where his dad was.
"On a business trip," the boy said. "He's going to be gone for a couple of weeks."
"Oh, do you miss your dad when he's gone like that?"
"Nah, not really"
I was shocked. "How come?" I asked.
"Well, he's never around, even when he's home. When he is, he's always in his office working. I only see him a few minutes each day. … "
We men are born to strive, to compete, to shoot for success. But as we pursue our goals, things can go terribly wrong. We start out to win the way we want to win, but in the end we lose in what really counts. Or we think we're achieving what matters most, but along the way we end up losing what we actually value.