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Are You Without Wax?
Theme of the Week: Get Real: The Key to Genuine Friendship
Wednesday, May 21, 2014

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Key Bible Verse: The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. (Proverbs 12:22)

Dig Deeper: Psalm 26

According to folk etymology, the Latin words from which we get the English word sincere are sine cera, meaning "without wax." Apparently, this term comes from an age-old practice common in the production of fine porcelain. Porcelain pieces can crack during the production process, and dishonest vendors filled the cracks with wax to make them appear as though they did not have flaws in them. Honest vendors, in contrast, displayed signs saying Sine Cera to indicate that they sold pure porcelain pieces, not deceptive ones.

A sincere, secure person does not try to cover personal "cracks" or flaws. He will respect you enough to be honest and transparent with you and to expect you to do likewise. On the other hand, insincere people try to make themselves appear better than they really are, often because they are afraid of being rejected.

What about you? In what specific ways do you need to become more straightforward and sincere? Are you able to walk away from most conversations and say, "I really meant what I said"?

Being able to say what you mean and mean what you say is a vital component of healthy friendships. I simply cannot overestimate the importance of being straightforward and sincere.

—Van Moody in The People Factor

My Response: How can I communicate honestly without tramping on others' feelings or saying things that can do harm to a relationship?

Thought to Apply: Lying to ourselves is more deeply ingrained than lying to others.—Fyodor Dostoevsky (Russian writer)

Adapted from The People Factor by Van Moody (Thomas Nelson, 2014) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.

Prayer for the Week
Heavenly Father, impress upon me the need to have genuine friendships with a few trustworthy Christian guys. Show me how to relate to them man-to-man in ways that foster honesty, build community, and promote personal growth.

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Curt Schleicher

May 21, 2014  12:02pm

This is one of those characteristics that a person is not born with but must develop over time and be disciplined about it. i've found that it really helps being transparent with God. He's aware of what you're hiding anyway. That is a big help with my transparency with others.

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Grayson Schwarz

May 21, 2014  6:31am

That's one to remember--loved Dostoevsky's quote at the end.

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ANTHONY Swaggerty

May 21, 2014  5:55am

Thanks again M.O.I. for the word today. It is a staple to my everyday. I feel un-covered without a nugget of insight to carry into my world for the day. Thank you again for the dive into principles to put into my life and share with other's. Anthony

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