Theme of the Week: Get Real: The Key to Genuine Friendship
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
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Key Bible Verses: Investigate my life, O God, find out everything about me; cross-examine and test me, get a clear picture of what I'm about; see for yourself whether I've done anything wrong—then guide me on the road to eternal life. (Psalm 139:23-24, The Message)
Dig Deeper: Jeremiah 17:9-10; Proverbs 21:2
Ophthalmologists will tell you that having one blind spot in each eye is normal. We also have other kinds of "blind spots." These are unbecoming thoughts, attitudes, or actions we're not aware of, but others see them. These blind spots can become barriers or stumbling blocks to our desire for more genuine relationships.
If you want to take the next step in getting to know yourself accurately, ask a few honest, trustworthy friends for their opinions about you. Friends who are willing to do this can help you see your blind spots, and the right people will do so with candor but also with love and grace. Be prepared for straightforward answers, but if you are willing to hear the truth, this exercise may yield some lessons that will help you be a better friend, coworker, leader, or family member.
Some of the answers from a trusted friend might surprise you; some may sting. You may not agree with him, but remember: you chose the person and you wanted honest responses. Be willing to think and pray about what you learn from this exercise and be willing to make the changes needed in order to become a better person in general and a better participant in all your relationships.
—Van Moody in The People Factor
My Response: If I had to guess, some of my blind spots are … I will test my guesses by asking my spouse, another family member, or a close friend to talk to me about my blind spots.
Thought to Apply: As a matter of honor, one man owes it to another to manifest the truth.—Thomas Aquinas (Italian theologian, philosopher)
Adapted from The People Factor by Van Moody (Thomas Nelson, 2014) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.
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Prayer for the Week
Heavenly Father, impress upon me the need to have genuine friendships with a few trustworthy Christian guys. Show me how to relate to them man-to-man in ways that foster honesty, build community, and promote personal growth.
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