Theme of the Week: Owning Your Emotions
Wednesday, May 28, 2014
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Key Bible Verse: Runaway emotions corrode the bones. (Proverbs 14:30, The Message)
Dig Deeper: Psalm 32
A friend had planned a weekend away with his wife to reconnect and rekindle a romance that had grown cold. All the pieces were in place: a nice bed-and-breakfast, an itinerary with nothing on it, and chocolate. Then the wheels fell off.
As often happens when there hasn't been any real conversation in a long time, issues that were lurking bubbled out because of an errant word. The weekend dissolved into anger, frustration, and tears. Rather than returning from the weekend renewed, the man came away uncertain, angry, [and] disappointed. But rather than address his disappointment in a healthy way with his wife, the man buried it. He told himself he was really okay and justified settling into a cool distance because life was so busy. He began acting out, pouring himself into pornography to placate his desire for a real connection with his wife.
Men are like an old car [leaking fluids] when it comes to emotions. If we don't acknowledge [our emotions] and talk about them, then they'll leak out in snarky side comments or passive-aggressive swipes at our friends, spouses, or kids. Or we'll just blow up, putting those around us in danger and creating an environment of fear and uncertainty.
—Darrin Patrick in The Dude's Guide to Manhood
My Response: When was a time I bottled up my emotions? What would I do differently if I could relive that moment?
Thought to Apply: Unexpressed feelings come forth later in uglier ways.—Stephen R. Covey (speaker, trainer, author)
Adapted from The Dude's Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick (Thomas Nelson, 2014) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.
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Prayer for the Week
Lord, you designed emotions, and they are a good thing. Please help me to keep my emotions in proper balance, and let them be a catalyst for loving you and those around me.
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