Key Bible Verses: Many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is set on earthly things. (Philippians 3:18-19, NIV)
C. S. Lewis described what he called, in the title of one book, The Abolition of Man. Men (and women), he argued, don't have a sense of the "spirited element"—which he locates in the chest—that moves us to action in the right situation. Instead of deep wells of healthy emotional energy, Lewis suggested, we have been made barren and empty, what he calls "men without chests."
There are two options for men who lack chests. Some men let their stomachs rule them. They end up pursuing nothing except sex, comfort, advancement, or riches. They don't have to assert themselves because they frequently do whatever they want.
Other men let their heads rule them. Their lives become one long three-step plan to self-improvement. They read all the self-help books and create life plans, sometimes in an effort not to have to deal with "distracting" emotions. They want order in and for their lives, and they'll cut themselves off from their deepest passions to pursue it.
The man in the middle is the affectionate man, the man who allows himself to feel deeply about the world but is also interested in feeling appropriately. He's not dominated by his emotions, but he doesn't suppress them either.