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Theme of the Week: Owning Your Emotions
Thursday, May 29, 2014

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Key Bible Verse: Share each other's burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2)

Dig Deeper: 1 Thessalonians 2:7-12

Guys are okay sharing their emotions when they are totally invested in something and when they are in a world they know and can navigate. For many men, sports are comfortable, and so men are safe to show their emotions. Passion is expected, and tears are acceptable on the field or court. For some men, the time they spend playing or watching sports is the only time they really feel alive.

Additionally, men are free to express emotions in the realm of sports because there are cultural rituals that help guide them. Conversely, there are few rituals for men in other realms and fewer models of emotionally healthy men. This is why many of us just don't know when and where we're supposed to stay composed and when it's okay to go to pieces.

When men open up and tell their families and friends their hopes, dreams, and fears, they create an environment of safety and security. When we invite others into our lives by sharing our emotions with them, we strengthen their ability to be emotionally vulnerable and transparent with us. Emotional bonds go both directions. As we take the first step and define and describe our feelings, we create space for others to do the same.

—Darrin Patrick in The Dude's Guide to Manhood

My Response: What steps can I take to be more open with friends and family?

Thought to Apply: Shared joy is double joy and shared sorrow is half-sorrow.—Swedish Proverb

Adapted from The Dude's Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick (Thomas Nelson, 2014) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.

Prayer for the Week
Lord, you designed emotions, and they are a good thing. Please help me to keep my emotions in proper balance, and let them be a catalyst for loving you and those around me.

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mark mcclendon

June 01, 2014  4:44am

I echo with the dads out there. I am so greatful that my son has a sensitive and caring side for Adults in nursing homes. I want to encourage him to do more of that. I have always had a heart for the less fortunate and I thank God at almost 50 yrs old I still do today. Lord may I be able to share my emotional side with my wife as well. Amen

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Curt Schleicher

May 29, 2014  8:21am

i am so thankful that i am so honored @ my daughter's wedding this afternoon to give a toast. i will keep it short as requested, but i also intend to express emotion on this day as well as to be honorable to Karin & Brad. Lord, provide me with your strength & wisdom to accomplish both both in what i intend to say. May my words be balanced in content. Convey enough emotion & yet express myself clearly. Yet to know when enough is enough. Like right now. Much thanks for the reminder. In Jesus name, Amen.

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ANTHONY Swaggerty

May 29, 2014  6:19am

Amen to that word, my nephew's joy today of graduating high school. Such a joy for him and the family. This word is something I will share with him as I hope it enlightens him to be brave in the world. Thanks M.O.I. Anthony

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