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Tough and Tender
Theme of the Week: Owning Your Emotions
Friday, May 30, 2014

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Key Bible Verse: Those who are noble have noble intentions, and they stand confidently by their honorable words and actions. (Isaiah 32:8, The Voice)

Dig Deeper: Isaiah 32:1-8

My friend Josh is one of the most passionate guys I know. He is deeply emotional with his family and friends; he cares about them more than he has words to express. But he is also working tirelessly within our city to provide jobs for those who need them, redevelop neighborhoods that have eroded due to neglect, and reinforce existing social support networks among low income communities.

He's a fierce warrior against injustice and racism, but he's also the sort of guy who tries to make everyone around him feel safe and warm. He's tender and tough at the same time.

Toughness and tenderness aren't opposites. They belong together in a man. True manhood takes both the strength to stand up against injustice and the softness to hold our children when they're scared. True manhood requires cultivating the passionate courage to protect those who are endangered and the sensitivity to allow our wives to pour out all their deepest yearnings to us. We need men who have both the tenderness to cry with those who are suffering and the toughness to tell those who are doing wrong to stop.

True manliness is tough without being dominating. It is tender without being weak.

—Darrin Patrick in The Dude's Guide to Manhood

My Response: A man I know who embodies both toughness and tenderness is … What habits of his can I adopt to cultivate these same virtues?

Thought to Apply: The energy that actually shapes the world springs from emotions.—George Orwell (British novelist, essayist, journalist, critic)

Adapted from The Dude's Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick (Thomas Nelson, 2014) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.

Prayer for the Week
Lord, you designed emotions, and they are a good thing. Please help me to keep my emotions in proper balance, and let them be a catalyst for loving you and those around me.

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May 30, 2014  11:38am

This weeks readings are spot on about men. It helps me to look at my life for ways to open up to my spouse and the people around me.

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