Van Moody is senior pastor of the Worship Center—a multicultural, multiethnic congregation in Birmingham, Alabama. Along with his pastoral responsibilities, he is an associate trainer in Japan for John Maxwell's EQUIP leadership organization. Van and his wife, Ty, have two children. This week's readings are adapted from Van's book The People Factor.
What he Said … Who Is that Masked Man?
In movies like Batman and The Lone Ranger, the main characters wear masks and pretend to be people they are not. While secret identities offer good entertainment, a person who pretends to be anyone other than himself will not be able to enjoy genuine, authentic friendships.
In the real world, people do not usually wear costumes or disguises, but many do find subtle ways to make themselves seem better than they really are. I suspect we have all done that at times—some of us more than others. But anytime this happens it sets us up for failure. To enjoy success in our lives and in our dealings with others, we need to thoroughly know our true selves.
To build and maintain deep friendships, people need to be real; they have to be who they really are, with no pretense and no spin.
If you are going to be real, you must demand honesty from yourself and avoid self-deception. Think about it: You can so easily tell yourself you are smarter, more attractive, more creative, more loyal, more honest, or more anything than you actually are.
Heavenly Father, impress upon me the need to have genuine friendships with a few trustworthy Christian guys. Show me how to relate to them man-to-man in ways that foster honesty, build community, and promote personal growth.
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