Too Many Rules?
Theme of the Week: How to Be a Good Dad
Thursday, July 24, 2014
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Key Bible Verse: Fathers, don't over-correct your children or make it difficult for them to obey the commandment [to 'honor your father and your mother']. Bring them up with Christian teaching in Christian discipline. (Ephesians 6:4, Phillips)
Dig Deeper: Ephesians 6:1-4
Brady Boyd came into the studio to discuss his book, Sons and Daughters: Spiritual Orphans Finding Our Way Home. We spent some time talking about his own son and daughter, and how he tries to keep household rules to a minimum. Sure, they embrace a handful of core rules, but he doesn't want to overload children with expectations and guidelines. The more rules they have to follow, the more opportunities they have to break one. And every broken rule can open the door for the child to feel like a failure, to hear how he or she doesn't measure up.
[I couldn't help but cringe when] Brady told how some families even have chalkboards or whiteboards filled with the home's rules. We actually have behavior guidelines hanging in our house!
Of course, there are many good rules. But too much of a good thing can hurt kids just as much as too much ice cream.
Here's the challenge facing us fathers: How can we create a home based on love and respect, not on rules? How can we help our children understand the purpose behind the principles we ask them to follow? How can we best teach our kids that we love them, even if they break a rule?
—Jim Daly in The Good Dad
My Response: How would I answer the three questions in the last paragraph?
Thought to Apply: Children need models more than they need critics.—Joseph Joubert (French moralist, essayist)
Adapted from The Good Dad by Jim Daly with Paul Asay. Copyright 2014 by James Daly. Used by permission of Zondervan. zondervan.com.
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Prayer for the Week
Heavenly Father, my children truly are gift s from you. Forgive me for those times I've neglected these precious gifts in my pursuit of other things. Help me to begin each day with a desire to be a good dad.
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