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Hey, Dad,

I've always considered myself … well, you know, a stud. But I've come to realize that I've been giving my wife second–rate goods.

Here's what I mean. I was talking to her at lunch today. Somewhere in the conversation, I commented on a single guy we knew who had recently shed some pounds and was looking pretty stylish. He hadn't always looked that way. When he was married, he looked more like me … an overweight slob whose idea of style is jeans and an old favorite shirt.

Now that he's unattached again, he cares more. I've seen the pattern before. When men and women are looking, they care about how they're lookin'. That's what bothered me. I looked down at my grubby shorts, sloppy shirt, and ran a hand over my unshaven face. Normally, I like the shabby–chic look, but now I just felt ashamed.

I used to care how I looked—especially when I was courtin' my future wife. I wanted to be fit, trim, and studish for my girl. But after we got married, I exchanged studish for slobbish. My thoughts were confirmed with a simple comment that my wife made yesterday. We were talking about buying me a new shirt, and she said, "I like it when you look good."

The truth is Dad, our wives like it when we look good.

I guess what bothers me most is that I haven't cared much about how I look for my bride. I should. I should care about how I look for my wife as much as I did when she wasn't my wife.

It's not about vanity, it's about loving my wife. It won't be easy for this dyed–in–the–wool slob … but I need to do it … for her.

How about you? Have you let a few things slide? Do you have holes in your T–shirts, a spare tire that would fit a monster truck, or a grizzled face? Come on! Let's get back on the stud wagon for our brides. It's time to shed a few pounds, splash on a little cologne, and look and be our best for them.

Because they deserve the best!

You 'da dad!

[Todd]

©Copyright Todd Wilson, 2004. Used by permission.

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