Sign up for our free newsletter:

 1 of 2

Jennifer and Rusty Veary make a handsome newlywed couple. They share a deep commitment to God and to each other. If you ran into them, you wouldn't notice anything unusual.

But if you got to know them, you might wonder why they went through with their wedding in August. Rusty, an energetic 50-year-old, married a woman who has a deadly, incurable and infectious disease. Jennifer, 32, is HIV-positive.

On a purely pragmatic level, their marriage defies logic. Conventional wisdom says the wedded state should confer a long list of attractive benefits—a lifetime of companionship and emotional support, a partner to share activities and interests, someone with whom you can raise a family. However, for Rusty and Jennifer, many of these benefits will be shortlived—and some, such as child-bearing—will be nonexistent.

Clearly, something else is at work. Rusty says his wife's condition doesn't matter to him—that we're all one day closer to the end of our lives. His nonchalance about marrying Jennifer, knowing he has little chance of growing old with her, flies in the face of what we've been taught to value in marriage. Talk to him about all this, and he gets philosophical. He believes nothing in life is guaranteed, yet God's plans will not be thwarted.

"People ask me why I would want to marry someone with a death sentence," he says. "You have to look at the heart of a person, not the outside shell—although Jennifer has a beautiful outside shell."

Jennifer is not a "typical" HIV-infected person. She is a nurse, and she has never used illicit drugs. But before she became a Christian four years ago, she had sex with a man who unknowingly had AIDS. "I thought it could never happen to me," she says. "I know now that I was living outside the boundaries God had set for my life."

While the Vearys hope for many years of marital happiness with this now "chronic, manageable disease," Rusty is prepared should Jennifer's health deteriorate. His only brother died of AIDS in 1992, and he shared the caregiving in the final days. But he's taking nothing for granted. "What if I get ill and Jennifer has to take care of me?" he asks.

Rusty and Jennifer are on to something. God created marriage and he pronounced it—without qualification—to be a good thing. Likewise, Rusty's reasons for marrying an HIV-positive woman far transcend the fleeting joy and excitement of romantic love that most couples settle for. The Vearys are demonstrating a truth that too many of us miss. Marriage is not solely a pragmatic arrangement. Its purposes far exceed mere comfort and convenience.

next page... |  1 of 2

				Try 3 Issues of Christianity Today Free! Name Street Address City/State/Zip E-mail Address Subscribe to Christianity Today and get 3 free trial issues. No credit card required. Please allow 4-6 weeks for delivery. Offer valid in U.S. only. If you decide you want to keep Christianity Today coming, honor your invoice for just $19.95 and receive nine more issues, a full year in all. If not, simply write "cancel" across the invoice and return it. The three trial issues are yours to keep, regardless.

RSS Feed   RSS Help