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He said 'She wouldn't let me be myself.' She said 'He didn't fit in with my family.'
Amy R. Donnelly | posted 9/30/2008
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For a long time, neither of the Donnellys understood the dynamics behind their tension with Amy's family. They just knew things weren't working out as they had planned, and they both had a keen sense that Matt wasn't "fitting in." It wasn't until they moved to a different state and began to spend more time together as a couple that Amy began to sense a change in her own attitude.
The Donnellys' courtship and engagement period had been a short one, and while they both were sure of their love for each other, they still needed to get to know each other. When Amy started looking at Matt through new eyes, she liked what she saw. She began to prize her husband's traits that she used to think of as "odd," such as his corny jokes and incessant reading of off-beat books.
With Amy's new attitude toward him, Matt became more secure around his in-laws and began to relax, no longer feeling he had to fill any silence with inane conversation or corny jokes. In turn, his in-laws began to open up more to him.
As Matt sensed Amy pulling away from her family and securing herself to his side, he lost the feeling that he was joining a "club." And he no longer felt the need to conform to an image. He knew Amy now accepted him as he was.
by Amy R. Donnelly
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