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5 Things Your Husband Wants You to Know
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James Charis | posted 9/30/2008
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3. Criticizing. Habitually thinking or speaking criticism is hard on a relationship. It's usually a sign that the criticizing mate has some personal development to do.
4. Showing contempt. Contempt is criticism escalated to outright mental abuse.
5. Denying responsibility. Without taking responsibility for your part, you'll blame your spouse and try to change him or her.
6. Reacting defensively. Fear is natural. Defensiveness naturally accompanies fear. Skillful partnering requires practicing techniques that allow you to drop your defenses despite your fear.
By Marty Crouch, MA, from
Lists to Live By, Volume 2 (Multnomah). Used by permission.
Run for More Sex
Eager to get your husband exercising more? Just lace on his sneakers and tell him exercise will keep him virile. A study conducted by the New England Research Institutes found that moderate to vigorous physical activity may reduce the risk of erectile dysfunction. It makes sense: Erections depend on blood flow, so activity that affects the cardiovascular system in a positive way will also positively impact his sex life. This is true even if he starts in midlife. So, how much activity is enough? The study suggests that he maintain a level of 200 calories a day—a brisk, two mile walk. Just remember, when you encourage him with the news, keep it short. The sooner he starts, the better.
Marriage Trends
How Old Were You?
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Average Age at Marriage
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Year
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Female
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Male
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1890
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22.0
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26.1
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1910
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21.6
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25.8
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1930
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20.3
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22.8
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1950
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20.3
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22.8
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1970
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20.8
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23.2
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1990
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23.9
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26.1
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—U.S. Department of Commerce, Bureau of the Census (1990)
Is Romance Becoming Routine?
Try putting some spin on it. With a little creativity and advance planning, you can turn your old favorites into your new ones. Here are a few ideas to get you going.
1. Instead of dinner and a movie, buy tickets to a concert or a play or visit an art museum. Make reservations and dress up for dinner afterwards at a restaurant that requires formal wear.
2. Plan a picnic on the roof of a city building, at a local mall, at an indoor park, or an arboretum. If you live in a cold climate, bundle up and brave the elements for an outdoor picnic at a park.
3. Re-create the date when you proposed.
4. Rent a convertible or luxury car for the weekend and drive to the beach, the mountains, or a near-by bed-and-breakfast.
5. Spend the whole day with each other in your own bedroom. Feed each other, give each other massages, watch romantic movies, and play the day away.
6. Plan a day of horseback riding. You'll be sore afterward, but you can take turns pampering each other the rest of the day.
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