One of the best discussions I've had in a long time happened on Facebook over the weekend. It was a discussion about the ‘dreaded' issue of Christianity, the church, and LGBTQ sexual relations. The discussion started with my statement which was something like:
To the question, "What is your position on LGBTQ?" I think the best answer (in these times) is "we have no position" The question itself misses the point of any other answer? Agree?
To which I got good fruitful pushback from all sides. I was "abnegating!" I was doing the equivalent of "standing aside and being silent during the civil rights movement." "There is no neutral on this!" some said. From this discussion, I came away with four points that need clarifying as to how/why someone would say "I have no position." These four points push us as Christians (no matter what sexual issues we are involved in at this time) toward a new posture regarding alternative sexualities that opens doors for mission and God's Kingdom to break in.
1) TO DECLARE A "POSITION" (PUBLICLY) FORECLOSES THE MOST IMPORTANT POSITION.
By taking a non-position to this question, we are not feigning neutrality. We are refusing to either single out a particular person's sexual brokenness as an issue above others, or act like there is no sexual brokenness at all in any of us. Instead, our position is that we are ALL in some way or another sexually broken and moving toward maturity in Christ, and this means that we all submit our brokenness to the healing and reconciling work of Christ in the context of Christian community?
When we take "positions," we buy into anti-relational dynamics which thwart God's Kingdom We see people as categories rather than individuals. Conceptualizing distances us from the people Christ loves. By refusing to make an aprior judgment against anyone, we are in essence saying the only prejudgment is that we are all sexually broken and we come seeking redemption. And if you are sexually whole and have no need for redemption, you are blessed. But we who are broken come as real people in real situations to submit together to what God is doing in and among us. This to me is the opening of space for God's Kingdom to break in on any issue.
2) TO DECLARE A POSITION (PUBLICLY) REINFORCES SEXUALITY AS AN IDENTITY MARKER.
Taking a position on the LGBTQ issue feeds the political conditions that have made sexual orientation a person's primary identity. So, evangelicals who make public statements about their position of not affirming LGBTQ relations, are in effect reinforcing what they deny. They lift LGBTQ above other sexual issues, and make it the one issue. Likewise, the progressive Christians do the same when they lift up LGBTQ relations as a banner issue, ignoring all the other sexual issues of our time. This works against God in Christ doing anything different among us and our sexual lives. In essence, by playing into the elevation of LGBTQ as a "position," we cement the status quo firmly in place with all its antagonisms. The state of our sexual lives, including any and all sexual pathologies that may exist among us, are now firmly in place. We get nowhere. There is no open space for sexual redemption. On the other hand, to not take a position, in effect creates space for a whole new conversation, a space for a new dynamic (what I would seek as the Kingdom of God). Sadly, my guess is, neither side wants this.
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