As a pastor it's easy to believe that everyone cares about spiritual formation as much as I do. In a community group years ago, I remember rambling on about something our church was beginning and something I, as a pastor at the church, really wanted everyone to understand. I was very excited about it and shared with this group how important all of this was going to be for them. Afterward, as my wife and I recapped the night, she gently said to me, "Chris, you need to remember that you care more about the church than anyone else."

She was right. I care about the word "missional," and how often a person interacts with his coworkers about faith. I care about church attendance, reactions to sermon series, and how a person defines "the gospel." But most people don't. They care about their kids, their families, their jobs, and their bills. They care about life. And this realization is how Dallas Willard saved my ministry.

Willard didn't write many books intended for pastors, but most pastors have ...