The Truth, Not the Whole Truth, but Nothing but the Truth
The tough art of communicating sensitive information.

The pastor stood before the congregation with a stern look on his face. His fingers curled tightly over the edges of the podium. "As some of you know, we had to make a … hard decision this week. What we want you to understand is that the elders handled the situation with wisdom and fairness, and though we know this is tough for some of you, we're going to move ahead. God has great things in store for our church. We encourage you all not to gossip … as you don't really know the situation. Pray for us as we make these hard calls on your behalf. Now, if you will turn in your Bibles…"

The congregation sat in stunned, pained silence.

Tough communication is an art

Communicating with a congregation in tough times is more art than science. Rules and policies outlining what to say and what not to say are rarely helpful because every situation is different. Sometimes, the whole truth can and should be told. But there are other times, when someone has to be let go, or a tough call has to be made by the elders where the truth, but not the whole truth is what's necessary. Knowing and navigating the difference can challenge even the best leaders.

What do we say? The short answer is as much as possible. When staff are let go, or there are other difficult situations that arise, people will want to know the whys and hows. They often have invested great time and energy into the relationships and ministries of those at the center of the storm. They feel a sense of ownership and given today's general distrust of authority will often assume the worst.

That's where authenticity and transparency become a leader's greatest assets in times of trouble. When standing in front of a congregation, attempting to explain a hurtful situation or challenging leadership call our natural desire is to cover our own rears, to say those things that will put us in the best light. This tendency should be recognized and resisted by owning our own parts in whatever hurt has come to our community. Few situations are 100% black and white, even those where someone has fallen morally. In even those extreme situations leadership should make clear not just what happened, but what they could have done to make it less likely to have happened.

People need to know two things: your heart for them and those involved in the difficult situation, and as many facts as you can tell them. Telling them how you feel is necessary, but not sufficient. They will also want to know whatever you can tell them about the situation and probably a bit more. Avoid the temptation to under-share or over-share. They need to know the truth, but the whole truth may be a disservice to many involved. It's always good to ask those in the middle of things "What are you comfortable with us sharing with the congregation?"

September 12, 2013

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September 15, 2013  4:26pm

"They under-communicate at first, and when the backlash from this happens, they are forced to revise and expand on their initial statements." I wish I knew where you guys hid the cameras during the last three congregational meetings!

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Chris Coté

September 12, 2013  2:58pm

Follow the "Tylenol Public Relations" rule: Tell it first, tell it all, tell it often."

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