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When I Think of all the women who've been part of my life over the years, I realize how much these friends have taught me about living. Here are some of the most important lessons I've learned!

My next-door neighbor Rhonda is a paragon of self-discipline. She has three well-behaved children and a loving husband. She lives carefully within their income. Her house is clean, and she serves in our church. Rhonda's no goody two-shoes; she's just got her priorities in order. I'm encouraged when I see Rhonda faithfully following God in the little things—everyday choices about her children's activities, their family spending, how she uses her time. She's a great example of what happens when a woman determines to live by godly principles.

If it weren't for my friend Lorebeth, my kids would never know we live within range of a children's museum and a carousel. I get caught up in the must-do aspects of every day and forget there's a big world out there.

But Lorebeth calls me up and tells me to grab the kids and meet her and her daughters here, there, and everywhere. She shows me how important it is to turn ordinary days into something special—because she gets out of the rut and takes me with her!

The worst thing about my friend Lisa is that now she lives in Arkansas—and I don't. But Lisa has a way of generating fun wherever she is. These days, we depend on long, laughing phone calls and ridiculous e-mails. But Lisa shows me that no matter what else goes on—she's had hurts in her life, too—a sense of humor keeps you humble about yourself and connected to those around you.

My friend Evangeline is constantly doing for others, but never makes a big deal of what she's done.

Recently, Evangeline and I threw a baby shower for a friend. The day before the shower, which was held at my house, she offered to watch my kids (they had chicken pox!) so I could get some cleaning done. After the guests had gone, I realized how many details Evangeline had quietly taken on—hors d'oeuvres, party favors, a salad, dessert. I want to emulate her way of being extraordinarily kind—and extraordinarily humble.

Evangeline's sister, Mona, is a whirling dervish who gets more done before breakfast than most people do all day. And Mona's willing to risk a few mistakes in order to fulfill what God's called her to do. It's not that she's totally fearless; she's just got the guts to go for it, even when things look tough. She's been a great role model of someone who trusts in God—and steps out in faith.

Gentleness is an attribute all believers are supposed to cultivate (Gal. 5:22-23). This frustrates me, because, let's face it, I'm rowdy. I talk too much. I'm not particularly sensitive. Aaarrgghh!

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January/February 2000, Vol. 22, No. 1, Page 50

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